Tulpa is a spiritual discipline and teachings concept in Tibetan Buddhism

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic582bEWKXkeBRFAjELediEFL8-fhyJ3N0CSJRFLt2j9WlYKPXZMFy6aSyxIV0_POExsmUO59gHhSymo6Y_f7ePq0JvHkGMX6hr0GJmX6A7ZgPBTIornqGTD5_orUk0asEkSJUePXuGQdw/s1600/INTULXIA24.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic582bEWKXkeBRFAjELediEFL8-fhyJ3N0CSJRFLt2j9WlYKPXZMFy6aSyxIV0_POExsmUO59gHhSymo6Y_f7ePq0JvHkGMX6hr0GJmX6A7ZgPBTIornqGTD5_orUk0asEkSJUePXuGQdw/s320/INTULXIA24.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Tulpa is a spiritual discipline and teachings concept in Tibetan Buddhism and Bon. The term “thoughtform” is used as early as 1927 in Evans-Wentz' translation of the Tibetan Book of the Dead. John Myrdhin Reynolds in a note to his English translation of the life story of Garab Dorje defines a tulpa as “an emanation or a manifestation.” The 14th Dalai Lama is said to be partly a tulpa of Chenrezig, the Bodhisattva of Compassion. The Dalai Lama mentioned in a public statement that his successor might appear via tulpa while the current Dalai Lama is still alive.<br /><br />As the Tibetan use of the tulpa concept is described in the book Magical Use of Thoughtforms, the student was expected to come to the understanding that the tulpa was just a hallucination. While they were told that the tulpa was a genuine deity, "The pupil who accepted this was deemed a failure – and set off to spend the rest of his life in an uncomfortable hallucination."</span>

Tulpa is a spiritual discipline and teachings concept in Tibetan Buddhism

Tulpa is a spiritual discipline and teachings concept in Tibetan Buddhism and Bon. The term “thoughtform” is used as early as 1927 in Evan...

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The Child in The Looking Glass Workshops

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUFuIwi6_lv1K4rgh2pGTqoponBALcl6hOHNpuMglsaoYUfjVQPtfHnT5yKRxH5RXAa5dJBQ5DPz03hVL0oIHGALxa5rV4EWAIdQecLbO47pu94liTi03J3A8O4MLWLxkrymWXaP5K9tnW/s1600/looking+glass.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiUFuIwi6_lv1K4rgh2pGTqoponBALcl6hOHNpuMglsaoYUfjVQPtfHnT5yKRxH5RXAa5dJBQ5DPz03hVL0oIHGALxa5rV4EWAIdQecLbO47pu94liTi03J3A8O4MLWLxkrymWXaP5K9tnW/s1600/looking+glass.jpeg" /></a></div> <br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Self-reflection is any conscious, non-dissociative form of mindfulness, meditation, or seeking. Its the mindful manner after our letting go meditation we connect<br />and listen to our perfect child within for compassionate guidance. This practice keeps us firmly rooted on our recovery path and opens the way to the truth that the genius in our child within has been waiting a life- time to manifest. Having grieved our history we recognise that our child is no longer held captive by ancient shackles of dissociation. We are no longer blocked by an impenetrable wall of silent abuse, defences of the dissociated playground, and self-hating voices of our ancestral past. Our freed energy allows us the deepest connection to the best of ourselves which enhances our child withins power. However, we have learned not abuse our power to dominate others or to exploit the material world. If we do, we are only deluding ourselves. Our sole desire for aligning with truth and its power is to guide us to our child withins calling. </span>

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As we move into our day, take with us the intention to notice all the moments when no specific activity demands our attention.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgv3Y0wOzAlbNjeK4woPTp3m-qyp90BTOu5vExoSzrzpVb_I1uv0TtN2Lfi7ZeKRmgEiRu_ooX0Lh6VZz5OA-IxQm0ZNy8Fyo2Twozp0Ld8oHLBfs_qYdyA5PIcZH5W4qL7gks2GhZ0WPeA/s1600/Partner-Program.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="160" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgv3Y0wOzAlbNjeK4woPTp3m-qyp90BTOu5vExoSzrzpVb_I1uv0TtN2Lfi7ZeKRmgEiRu_ooX0Lh6VZz5OA-IxQm0ZNy8Fyo2Twozp0Ld8oHLBfs_qYdyA5PIcZH5W4qL7gks2GhZ0WPeA/s200/Partner-Program.png" width="200" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we move into our day, take with us the intention to notice all the moments when no specific activity demands our attention. They might be moments travelling to or from work, breaks in your working day, or a lull at the end of the day in which nothing demands your engagement.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Sense what happens in our minds and body in those moments. Be aware if you are carrying an inclination to immediately fill that space with something to occupy your attention. There may be an inclination to pick up a book, turn on the radio, make a telephone call, or search for food.</span></blockquote>

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Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDc1cwvo-84HFh58-Gq4_bWgHUh13iASS-QzornoPWTngNZ3h-u3iKwiO7fgIG_9qC5rEyroVJI_mb1JXshnk_t7OmrRIXMlKmqKwBxBoAJ-fRT5udVpWUuNExNiRwI8ENALWkaaf59CAk/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="227" data-original-width="227" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgDc1cwvo-84HFh58-Gq4_bWgHUh13iASS-QzornoPWTngNZ3h-u3iKwiO7fgIG_9qC5rEyroVJI_mb1JXshnk_t7OmrRIXMlKmqKwBxBoAJ-fRT5udVpWUuNExNiRwI8ENALWkaaf59CAk/s1600/110888-108744.jpg" /></a></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. <i>We have a childhood mystery to solve.</i> Why have we been attracted to the the type of people that we have been in relationship with in our life? </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Why do we react in certain ways in certain situations? </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Where do our strange behaviour patterns come from? </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Why do we sometimes feel so: helpless; lonely; desperate; scared; angry; and some times suicidal. <br /><br />Just starting to ask these types of questions, is the first step in the healing Stages process. It is healthy to start wondering about the cause and effect dynamics of dissociational escapism in our life. <br /><br />In our dissociation, we react to life out of a black and white, right and wrong, belief paradigm that taught us that is was shameful and bad to be wrong, to make mistakes, to be imperfect - to be human. </span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We formed our core relationship with our self and with life in early childhood based on the messages we recieved, the emotional trauma we suffered, and the role modelling of the adults around us. As we grew up, we built our relationship with self, other people, and life on the foundation we formed in this early childhood. <br /><br />When we were five, we were already reacting to life out of the emotional trauma of earlier childhood experience. We adapted defences to try to protect ourselves and to get our survival needs met. The defences adapted at five due to the trauma suffered at earlier ages led to further trauma when we were seven that then caused us to adjust our defences, that led to deep dissociations in our teenage years<br /><br /><i>Toxic dissociation is the belief that there is something inherently wrong with who we are, with our being. Guilt is "I made a mistake, I did something wrong." The Toxic dissociation is: "I am a mistake. There is something wrong with me." </i><br />It is important to start awakening to the Truth that there is nothing inherently wrong with our child within - it is our relationship with our child within and with our adult life that is dysfunctional. And that relationship was formed in our early childhood. <br /><br />The way that one begins child within consciousness is simply to become aware of our hidden side. <br /><br />To become aware that the governing principle in life is cause and effect.<br /><br />To become aware that our relationship with our self is dysfunctional.<br /><br />To change our awareness that we have the power to understand and change our relationship with our child within.<br /><br />To understand that we were programmed with false beliefs about the purpose and nature of life in early childhood - and that we can change that programming.<br /><br />To allow our child within to acknowledge that we have emotional wounds from childhood that it is possible to get in touch with our child within and to understand to re-connect from the dictating dysfunctional adult that we have become the frozen emotional life we are living  today. <br /><br />That is the purpose of child within solution - to stop letting our experiences of the past dictate how we respond to life today. It cannot be done without re-connecting to our childhood hidden within. <br /><br />We need to become to raise our consciousness. To re-map a new level of consciousness for ourselves that allows us to observe ourselves from the viewpoint of our child within. <br /><br />It is vitally important to start observing ourselves - our reactions, our feelings, our thoughts - from a child within place that is not shaming. <br /><br />We all have developed an inner judgemental critic, a critical parent voice, that beats us up with shame, judgement, and fear. The critical parent voice developed to try to control our emotions and our behaviours because we got the message there was something wrong with us and that our survival would be threatened if we did, said, or felt the "wrong" things. <br /><br />It is vital to start learning how to connect and free ourselves not give power to that critical shaming voice. We need to start observing ourselves with compassion. This is almost impossible at the beginning of our  healing process - having compassion for our self, being Loving to our self, is the hardest thing for us to do.Making gentle contact with our child hidden within paramount<br /><br />So, we need to start to re-connect to our child within ourselves from a neutral perspective of our childhood. Become a child observer, a perfect child within -  of our own inner process as it were. <br /><br />We need to start observing our childhood and asking ourselves where that reaction / thought / feeling is coming from. Why am I feeling this way? What does this remind me of from my past? How old do I feel right now? How old did I act when that happened? <br /><br />One of the amazing things about this process, is that as one starts to become more aware of our own perfect child within, we also start to become more aware of others. We start seeing when the people in our lives are reacting like a little kid, or adolescent, or teenager, or whatever. The more we become aware of their reactions, the easier it becomes to stop taking their behaviour personally - which then makes it easier to detach from our own adult constructed reactions and observe ourselves from our child within viewpoint. <br /><br />It is an amazing, miraculous process, that can help us to change our relationship with our self, with other people, and with life. Becoming more aware, becoming conscious of a new way of looking at ourselves and life is the beginning of a process of learning to forgive and understand our child within that has become trapped within ourselves. </span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> Understanding the mystery of the conscious perfect child within of why we have lived our lives as we have, we can start to free ourselves from our past. By understanding the miracle of child within intact consciousness, we can learn how to really be liberated instead of just surviving and enduring.</span></div>

Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve.

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Kindfulness Contemplations a contemplative study into the child within journey towards self

<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br /> </span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"></span></div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyCkhZRr88OylZgE8LzHIxFrvjdSYqXvXP7FJe3XtAND7kyGnhhSlF4pyzidc1kxro6iuxh56Ma2_z9vjf7sFUVMXFFVQEh50ThWDxX7UNYfssce6qf2vvTu0hjkBIwzLVlPYO82sj3I3F/s1600/DSC_0381.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjyCkhZRr88OylZgE8LzHIxFrvjdSYqXvXP7FJe3XtAND7kyGnhhSlF4pyzidc1kxro6iuxh56Ma2_z9vjf7sFUVMXFFVQEh50ThWDxX7UNYfssce6qf2vvTu0hjkBIwzLVlPYO82sj3I3F/s320/DSC_0381.JPG" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Kindfulness Contemplation understanding the roots of the child withi</span><span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">n and the opening of the roots of parental influence. How do we know that when we are is actually conscious and does it matter? There is no question that the baby is awake. Its eyes are wide open, it wriggles and grimaces, and, most important, it cries. But all that is not the same as being conscious, of experiencing pain, seeing red or smelling Mom's milk.</span><br /> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />We recognise that we have no awareness of our own state, emotions and motivations. Even as older children we can speak have very limited insight into our own actions. We who have raised a boy is familiar with the blank look on our teenager’s face when we ask him why he did something particularly rash. A shrug and “I dunno—it seemed like a good idea at the time” is the most we’ll hear.<br /><br />Although a newborn lacks self-awareness, the baby processes complex visual stimuli and attends to sounds and sights in its world, preferentially looking at faces. The infant’s visual acuity permits it to see only blobs, but the basic cortical circuitry necessary to support simple visual and other conscious percepts is in place. And linguistic capacities in us are shaped by the environment we grow up in. Exposure to maternal speech sounds in the muffled confines of the womb enables the foetus to pick up statistical regularities so that the newborn can distinguish its mother’s voice and even her language from others. A more complex behaviour is imitation: if Dad sticks out his tongue and waggles it, the infant mimics his gesture by combining visual information with proprioceptive feedback from its own movements. It is therefore likely that the baby has some basic level of inflective, present-oriented consciousness.<br /><br />The Road to our Awareness<br />But when does the magical journey of consciousness begin? Consciousness requires a sophisticated network of highly interconnected components, nerve cells. Its physical substrate, the cortical complex that provides consciousness with its highly elaborate content, begins to be in place between the 24th and 28th week of gestation. Roughly two months later synchrony of the electroencephalographic (EEG) rhythm across both cortical hemispheres signals the onset of global neuronal integration. Thus, many of the circuit elements necessary for consciousness are in place by the third trimester. By this time, pre-term infants can survive outside the womb under proper medical care. And as it is so much easier to observe and interact with a pre-term baby than with a foetus of the same gestational age in the womb, the foetus is often considered to be like a pre-term baby, like an unborn newborn. But this notion disregards the unique uterine environment: suspended in a warm and dark cave, connected to the placenta that pumps blood, nutrients and hormones into its growing body and brain, the foetus is asleep.<br /><br />Invasive experiments in rat and lamb pups and observational studies using ultrasound and electrical recordings in humans show that the third-trimester foetus is almost always in one of two sleep states. Called active and quiet sleep, these states can be distinguished using electroencephalography. Their different EEG signatures go hand in hand with distinct behaviours: breathing, swallowing, licking, and moving the eyes but no large-scale body movements in active sleep; no breathing, no eye movements and tonic muscle activity in quiet sleep. These stages correspond to rapid-eye-movement (REM) and slow-wave sleep common to all mammals. In late gestation the foetus is in one of these two sleep states 95 percent of the time, separated by brief transitions.<br /><br />What is fascinating is the discovery that the foetus is actively sedated by the low oxygen pressure (equivalent to that at the top of Mount Everest), the warm and cushioned uterine environment and a range of inhibitory and sleep-inducing substances produced by the placenta and the foetus itself: adenosine; two steroidal anaesthetics, allopregnanolone and pregnanolone; one potent hormone, prostaglandin D2; and others. The role of the placenta in maintaining sedation is revealed when the umbilical cord is closed off while keeping the foetus adequately supplied with oxygen. The lamb embryo now moves and breathes continuously. From all this evidence, neonatologists conclude that the foetus is asleep while its brain matures.<br /><br />Dreamless Sleep? <br />One complication ensues. When people awaken during REM sleep, they often report vivid dreams with extensive narratives. Although consciousness during dreams is not the same as during wakefulness—most noticeably insight and self-reflection are absent—dreams are consciously experienced and felt. So does the foetus dream when in REM sleep? This is<br />not known. But what would it dream of?<br /><br />After birth, dream content is informed by recent and more remote memories. Longitudinal studies of dreaming in children suggest that dreaming is a gradual cognitive development that is tightly linked to the capacity to imagine things visually and to visuospatial skills. Thus, preschoolers’ dreams are often static and plain, with no characters that move or act, hardly any feelings and no memories. What would dreaming be like for an organism that spends its time suspended in a sort of isolation tank, with no memories, and no way to imagine anything at all? I wager that the foetus experiences nothing in utero; that it feels the way we do when we are in a deep, dreamless sleep.<br /><br />The dramatic events attending delivery by natural (vaginal) means cause the brain to abruptly wake up, however. The foetus is forced from its paradisal existence in the protected, aqueous and warm womb into a hostile, aerial and cold world that assaults its senses with utterly foreign sounds, smells and sights, a highly stressful event.<br /><br /> A massive surge of nor-epinephrine—more powerful than during any skydive or exposed climb the foetus may undertake in its adult life—as well as the release from anaesthesia and sedation that occurs when the foetus disconnects from the maternal placenta, arouses the baby so that it can deal with its new circumstances. It draws its first breath, wakes up and begins to experience life.</span><br /> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /></span></div> <div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: #f6f6f7; color: #666666; font-family: "allerta stencil"; font-size: 12px; line-height: 16.8px;">Our conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain.</span></span></div>

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Dissociation is an involuntary human response to stress or trauma that causes the conscious mind to withdraw and turn inward Stages( end of session) Compassion Meditation | Meditation Mind

<a href="http://meditationminds.blogspot.com/2016/07/ten-stages-end-of-session-compassion.html">Ten Stages( end of session) Compassion Meditation | Meditation Mind</a><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyKiiPQe4NvQgC4qcIHfKBzankbpPtabL0vQEi_-dfDmzPuTUwFmgIgei-WO3LN4qVJho6Y_DZ4G7m0-nZujH5Tn7HtJqdYXTh4wwmqUJ73claQmOIEqxVMb4a3zt07dvq9chbj-5u7nmq/s1600/DSC_0091.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgyKiiPQe4NvQgC4qcIHfKBzankbpPtabL0vQEi_-dfDmzPuTUwFmgIgei-WO3LN4qVJho6Y_DZ4G7m0-nZujH5Tn7HtJqdYXTh4wwmqUJ73claQmOIEqxVMb4a3zt07dvq9chbj-5u7nmq/s320/DSC_0091.JPG" width="320" /></a></div> What children — or, for that matter, adults — generally do when exposed to physical violence or other trauma they can’t flee from or prevent: They “dissociate.”<br /> <br /> Dissociation is an involuntary human response to stress or trauma that causes the conscious mind to withdraw and turn inward, reducing incoming stimuli and mitigating the effects of overwhelming emotion. The feeling is one of being present but not consciously aware of oneself or one’s surroundings and is characterised by memory loss and a sense of disconnection. For victims of trauma, experts say, dissociation is often lifesaving.<br /> <br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6NJNFSmrHpIXrS02ZgZOVGGbvUpvpJ3uwekIEzL1QmAaAgMVtdi8UvNs3HWzHoqUwFEjQeTBu5OGxKiUUNSLuRlO20I5_O6WT08fzwLRUdSspL4d_pIWR0qRGeXaiOV2kJFW5uDxqJVJI/s1600/DSC_0089.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh6NJNFSmrHpIXrS02ZgZOVGGbvUpvpJ3uwekIEzL1QmAaAgMVtdi8UvNs3HWzHoqUwFEjQeTBu5OGxKiUUNSLuRlO20I5_O6WT08fzwLRUdSspL4d_pIWR0qRGeXaiOV2kJFW5uDxqJVJI/s320/DSC_0089.JPG" width="180" /></a>But when the dissociative response is called on repeatedly, especially in early childhood, the defence can become fixed and ingrained, disrupting normal functioning and undermining emotional and physical well-being. The most common cause is child maltreatment — physical, emotional or sexual abuse.</div>

Dissociation is an involuntary human response to stress or trauma that causes the conscious mind to withdraw and turn inward Stages( end of session) Compassion Meditation | Meditation Mind

Ten Stages( end of session) Compassion Meditation | Meditation Mind What children — or, for that matter, adults — generally do when expos...

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Gazing into a mirror, what is it that you see?

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQO0_UojXSdQOwOh1i_eiZEWQ2ssjwB_hO1L7W5Z_RtuxEseAosHS3wZ-Eo8K6Dyuy-_rDM8ZVoCjKh6i9WBLdp3qhjCssag3qkEQBVXw3U-eIDiZ2r0is5TiaRdb6XL66rYG6gQee5Oc1/s1600/intuitive+voice234.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="180" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgQO0_UojXSdQOwOh1i_eiZEWQ2ssjwB_hO1L7W5Z_RtuxEseAosHS3wZ-Eo8K6Dyuy-_rDM8ZVoCjKh6i9WBLdp3qhjCssag3qkEQBVXw3U-eIDiZ2r0is5TiaRdb6XL66rYG6gQee5Oc1/s320/intuitive+voice234.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">Gazing into a mirror, what is it that you see? You see a reflection of the person others see when they look at you. If the mirror should shatter you would then see not just one, but many reflections of yourself in the fragments. </span>

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Our Orphaned Adult

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ3e4wRSNOMtOK5e0yR_P00rAyZGdsoiQEDj2Q8E10BhlYtIsEx9iwYMP-L_E1zwkjExc0jNHPI0kefoJ8cb8PegoWqZPzYXLHIY3oErI5Hg_1-Gmg1KlzrAEa0oS7uQ09EQGhygfX-dhV/s1600/child+within+conscious.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="805" data-original-width="960" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ3e4wRSNOMtOK5e0yR_P00rAyZGdsoiQEDj2Q8E10BhlYtIsEx9iwYMP-L_E1zwkjExc0jNHPI0kefoJ8cb8PegoWqZPzYXLHIY3oErI5Hg_1-Gmg1KlzrAEa0oS7uQ09EQGhygfX-dhV/s320/child+within+conscious.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br />Our Orphaned Adult<br /><br />Everyone knows their parents are going to die one day, but many people are bewildered by their degree of loss.<br /><br />They’re the forgotten grievers, the lucky ones whose parents had a good innings, the people who after a few months or even weeks are expected to dust themselves down, put their pain behind them and get back to a normal, happy life.<br /><br />Midlife orphans, orphaned adults — there’s no established term for them, yet losing your parents is one of adult life’s most significant rites of passage. And while society recognises the loss that children feel when their parents die, adults are supposed to be fundamentally different, quickly dealing with the grief of losing the people that raised them from the cradle.<br /><br />If only it were that simple. Psychologists warn that the impact of losing your parents goes way beyond organising the funeral and sorting out the will. It might be the natural order of things that parents die before their children, but the sheer inevitability is no cushion to the pain, soul-searching and sheer feeling of rudderlessness that so often follows.</span>

Our Orphaned Adult

Our Orphaned Adult Everyone knows their parents are going to die one day, but many people are bewildered by their degree of loss. They’r...

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last week Steven Spielberg gave a commencement speech at Harvard, and he credited following his intuition as the key to his success

<span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPza2jukYrsdHxg73LSGbZcv3oyQVzhZhsvHwz5HMQO53cj1c5rLsyozpDVmJOUM_d4CXgXUpFkc609O5zwkfCINmGVWZqAcAucaZnC5sdouzvn03Vq144EkvbRTNJQkiHhX953CSrkkWV/s1600/1-FotorChildwithin56.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="297" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhPza2jukYrsdHxg73LSGbZcv3oyQVzhZhsvHwz5HMQO53cj1c5rLsyozpDVmJOUM_d4CXgXUpFkc609O5zwkfCINmGVWZqAcAucaZnC5sdouzvn03Vq144EkvbRTNJQkiHhX953CSrkkWV/s320/1-FotorChildwithin56.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> last week Steven Spielberg gave a commencement speech at Harvard, and he credited following his intuition as the key to his success. He also encouraged the class of 2016 to find their intuition and follow it. <br /><br /> <br /><br />He said:<br /><br /> <br /><br />"But then I directed The Colour Purple. And this one film opened my eyes to experiences that I never could have imagined, and yet were all too real. This story was filled with deep pain and deeper truths, like when Shug Avery says, ‘Everything wants to be loved.’ My gut, which was my intuition, told me that more people needed to meet these characters and experience these truths. And while making that film, I realized that a movie could also be a mission. I hope all of you find that sense of mission. Don’t turn away from what’s painful. Examine it. Challenge it."<br /><br /> <br /><br />And then he said:<br /><br /> <br /><br />"Love, support, courage, intuition. All of these things are in your hero’s quiver..."<br /><br /> <br /><br />Steven Spielberg entire speech at Harvard boiled down to listening to our intuition. <br /><br /> <br /><br />Because we all have access to intuition. And when we tap into it and follow it - everything changes. <br /><br /> <br /><br />I want to share with you one more thing he said, because it's vital to know that YOU have intuition (it's not just reserved for the special few)...<br /><br /> <br /><br />He said:<br /><br /> <br /><br />"And again, this is why it’s so important to listen to your internal whisper. It’s the same one that compelled Abraham Lincoln and Oskar Schindler to make the correct moral choices. In your defining moments, do not let your morals be swayed by convenience or expediency. Sticking to your character requires a lot of courage."<br /><br /> <br /><br />Are you ready to tap into and follow your intuition?</span><br />

last week Steven Spielberg gave a commencement speech at Harvard, and he credited following his intuition as the key to his success

  last week Steven Spielberg gave a commencement speech at Harvard, and he credited following his intuition as the key to his success. He ...

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Any man's death diminishes me

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9MDhAEdHbc5gmvbSgAkqib8SxzpzvYWc7n0jaq8f6JHd239aqSy3BfGGXA6sqmdykNrEHc39eGSfYqXb3nNPDYOfktobkZ3tf4xJRYo3HrzLan7A3reIAw9HOvjfpKo9tAHXMmVDfFrr0/s1600/DAD22.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="240" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh9MDhAEdHbc5gmvbSgAkqib8SxzpzvYWc7n0jaq8f6JHd239aqSy3BfGGXA6sqmdykNrEHc39eGSfYqXb3nNPDYOfktobkZ3tf4xJRYo3HrzLan7A3reIAw9HOvjfpKo9tAHXMmVDfFrr0/s320/DAD22.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">"No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main... Any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind." –John Donne</span>

Any man's death diminishes me

"No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main... Any man's death diminishes m...

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Working through the ten stages can be painful, and potentially we all suffer and grieve.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQg7gRqkHT4NGPvacw8pJRf6nI7_X13QX7kG8x6j7T4_fdQ3-ktDquA9CGjmBQkOfJE-cnzzx98sKem5fkVKDk3KHA5lukzaFAPjb0259L6X3ZIxEOJlFqSnQSEtrYpOuMRBVWdreCZBmS/s1600/12936491_715385875269782_7796118700072957201_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjQg7gRqkHT4NGPvacw8pJRf6nI7_X13QX7kG8x6j7T4_fdQ3-ktDquA9CGjmBQkOfJE-cnzzx98sKem5fkVKDk3KHA5lukzaFAPjb0259L6X3ZIxEOJlFqSnQSEtrYpOuMRBVWdreCZBmS/s320/12936491_715385875269782_7796118700072957201_n.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><br /><br />Working through the ten stages can be painful, and potentially we all suffer and grieve. Very often we who have experienced childhood abuse have coped at least in part through some degree of deep dissociation. While this was necessary for our survival then, continued dissociation (especially forms that are apparently not within our control) is not adaptive once the abuse has stopped. Now the task of the ten stages is to help you stay present long enough to learn other means of establishing safety in the present. How does someone with automatic survival skills of dissociation learn to do this? Gentle meditation is one skill that can help.<br /><br />The ten stages does not only consist of telling our story or focusing on childhood memories, though of course that is a part of the student work. Bringing child memories to mind, talking about them in a trusting relationship, and developing the capacities for managing them while staying present in the moment are all crucial parts of our healing process. A premature emphasis on our childhood material can in fact do more harm than good. We may first need to learn and practice a variety of self-care meditational skills that we can then employ during the memory work phase.This we call TRUST and Consent<br /><br />In the past, we were encouraged to speak about our abuse in the belief that this catharsis would be healing.  This instead led to re-traumatisation rather than mastery of the abuse material or healing. In fact, some childhood survivors are able to tell their stories easily, but in a dissociated manner. Because of the risks involved, this healing work is best done with the help of our long-term students who can help us learn to cope with past memories effectively. Our goal is to help us connect to the past while staying in the present.<br /><br />We are focused on a stage approach, which includes early preparation, focus on developing trust and consent and stabilisation.  first phase of the ten stages is safety. How can we experience this if we do not even feel safe within ourself, but at the risk of constant flashbacks? In fact, for many of us it may have felt that there were only two choices available to us historically: abuse or dissociation. We begin by learning trust and consent threw interaction with our child within so that we can be present enough to develop a whole ten stage range of self-care for our child within is crucial to recovery.<br /><br /><br /><br />Contact with our child within is about learning to stay present (or for most of us get present in the first place) in our body in the here and now. It consists of a set of skills/tools to help us identify and manage dissociation and the trauma-induced emotions that lead to it. Processing done from a  dissociated state is highly useful in the ten stages and leads us from Trust and consent to our specific truth. Once we are present, we can need to learn other means of managing the feelings and thoughts associated with our recognised truthful memories.<br /><br />Every one is different. Dissociation identification will work for different people in differing ways.<br />-Moving from trust and consent often takes the form of focusing on the present by tuning into it via all our senses. For example, one meditational technique could involve focusing on a sound you hear right now, a physical sensation (what is the texture of the chair you are sitting on, for example?) and/or something you see. Describe each in as much detail as possible.<br /><br />-Diaphragmatic or deep breathing meditation: Childhood survivors often hold their breath or breathe very shallowly. This in turn deprives you of oxygen which will make anxiety more intense. Stopping and focusing on deepening and slowing your breathing can bring you back to the moment.<br /><br />-Relaxation letting go, guided ten stage study - We with dissociative mindsets are engaging in a form of self-hypnosis much of the time. The trouble is it appears out of our control, it is out of our control!But it is not out of the control of our child within. Our guides have become trained in Child within gentle meditation and can help teach you how to use dissociation in a way that works for us.  We build and develop a safe container for childhood memories in an awakened child within between sessions, create a safe or comfortable place (“safe” may not be a concept some of us can relate to or may be triggering to some) Contact with the child within we learn the ways to turn up and down the “volume” of painful feelings and memories locked away within us moving from anger to peaceful understanding.<br /><br />Meditation and child within contact and emotional management skills can help us proceed with the study of our child hidden within in a manner that is empowering instead of re-traumatising.</span>

Working through the ten stages can be painful, and potentially we all suffer and grieve.

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We awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg78z76sZjH7wUqTtgeG-VsUTkTWxdGALenZF6kuWkTUWqzjP6FIzj-kMCtiyI8V05WBmmm3iVQM4Yb5qWufX2NJ3VMouw4zpmWDFeQnoLgKdxyUwbdmv0N_uzAgAkbiNNyWbje_KqZ3vLB/s1600/Fotor010412335.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="158" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg78z76sZjH7wUqTtgeG-VsUTkTWxdGALenZF6kuWkTUWqzjP6FIzj-kMCtiyI8V05WBmmm3iVQM4Yb5qWufX2NJ3VMouw4zpmWDFeQnoLgKdxyUwbdmv0N_uzAgAkbiNNyWbje_KqZ3vLB/s320/Fotor010412335.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="background-color: white; color: #555555; font-family: 'Courier New', Courier, monospace; font-size: medium;">As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations. We see with heartbreak the decimation of relationships and our original family.  We realise with horror that they never grew into their full, conscious capacity, but instead remained wounded, troubled children who were easy to exploit and ready to exploit in turn. And so we rebel, but wildly, unconsciously. We see that our unconscious child within has not only poisoned the planet but poisoned every new generation we mindlessly create. Awakened to this nightmare, we scream with protests and movements of various kinds to stop social deception. As we fight to heal our outer world we begin to heal our inner world—and step toward inner, integrated truth. We begin to sense that we have lost our way and our child hidden within. We seek a better way of being recovered. And as we become increasingly conscious, we start to evolve into a new, true, and sustainable life.</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/12/if-we-have-have-not-healed-our.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/364124575_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/12/if-we-have-have-not-healed-our.html" style="background-image: none; 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overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Dreams are the royal road to the unconscious</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2016/01/stagers-are-in-business-of-becoming.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/365105899_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2016/01/stagers-are-in-business-of-becoming.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Stagers are in the business of becoming free of their trauma.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; 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We awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations.

As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations....

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The Search for the intuitive voice:We have a core identity our child within which is the original person born into the body.

<br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOdoIzs8Mn-4mavGJ0UyvHMDkP9s91mMeFnOZgruc3jV8SoS11gcYIQT6JEXoUFL-zc5rcOKaRmkAPGGEVWcEbJ88_27EFTKesA5YZxMGFz_q_KeK1kpVpU8_BJyj7S-jqtyqAAuklB0/s1600/child+mimics.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOdoIzs8Mn-4mavGJ0UyvHMDkP9s91mMeFnOZgruc3jV8SoS11gcYIQT6JEXoUFL-zc5rcOKaRmkAPGGEVWcEbJ88_27EFTKesA5YZxMGFz_q_KeK1kpVpU8_BJyj7S-jqtyqAAuklB0/s320/child+mimics.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">We have a core identity our child within </span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> which is the original person born into the body. Through repeated trauma, if the defences of numbing and dissociation have repeatedly been used, the authentic self, the Child withins, identity may become out of reach and its existence even forgotten. But as long as the body lives, the Child is alive, although parts may be cut off from the Child, or we may have been led to believe the Child has died. The Child is the age of the body and usually goes by the birth name or nickname, although that is not always true. mine was Charlie<br />It took me a long while to accept the existence of my Child Within. I could not feel him, see him, or hear him inside. Some of my parts were convinced they had<br />witnessed the Child dying. Be aware, this is never true – the Child within CANNOT die, if the body does not die. The Child can experience near death, and be<br />unconscious, but it is STILL THERE.</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-reflexively-go-away-inside-when-we.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/346237629_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-reflexively-go-away-inside-when-we.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We reflexively go away inside when we brush up against something difficult, and we are gone before we know it.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-are-addicted-we-are-addicted-to.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/347615870_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://recoverystage.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-are-addicted-we-are-addicted-to.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We are addicted. We are addicted to dissociation.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/ego-always-seeks-death-recovery-always.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/336757320_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/04/ego-always-seeks-death-recovery-always.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Ego always seeks death. Recovery always seeks life.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-physical-fallout-of-not-being.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/346438429_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagesevents.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-physical-fallout-of-not-being.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The physical fallout of not being conscious of the stress responses in our body</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/10/we-need-stagers-who-can-let-us-be-who.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/364025985_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/10/we-need-stagers-who-can-let-us-be-who.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We need stagers who can let us be who we are - and not brag about the ten stages.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/12/every-child-falls-over-and-for-some-mum.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/365105931_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/12/every-child-falls-over-and-for-some-mum.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts.</a></li> </ul> </div>

The Search for the intuitive voice:We have a core identity our child within which is the original person born into the body.

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Know that with one single fraction of my Being, I pervade and support the Universe, and know that I AM

<div class="zemanta-img" style="text-align: left;"> <a href="http://commons.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Tubal_Pregnancy_with_embryo.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img alt="An opened oviduct with an ectopic pregnancy at..." border="0" class="zemanta-img-inserted zemanta-img-configured" height="320" src="//upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/2/21/Tubal_Pregnancy_with_embryo.jpg/350px-Tubal_Pregnancy_with_embryo.jpg" style="border: none; font-size: 0.8em;" width="299" /></a></div> <blockquote class="tr_bq"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Sometime ago I saw a video on the development of a human embryo. Shortly after the fertilized egg cell begins to divide - when there is a very minimal number of cells - a dark "neural ridge" appears. It will later "evolve" into the central nervous system and brain. Shortly thereafter, a 'group' of cells begins to pulse, cells that will develop into the heart, lungs and circulatory system, as the ebryo grows through its amphibian, reptilian and mammalian stages to form a complete and viable human being.<br /> <br />(I know that this "recapitulation theory," or the "theory of embryological parallelism," is controversial; yet it seems indisputable that the developing embryo goes through various stages that mimic the evolution of humans from single cells to fully formed human individuals. Certainly, neuroscientists distinguish between the "reptilian" brain, the "mamallian" cortex, and the "primate's" neo-cortex.)<br />My question is: How is there some form of 'consciousness' built into the DNA that causes these developments to take place?<br />At the genetic level that DNA proteins form (from adenine, guanine, thymine and cytosene, as I remember from High School biology), we are very close in degrees of magnitude to the atomic and sub-particulate levels where quantum effects begin to be the determinative factors. As quantum "events," sub-particles continually flash into and out of 'existence' seemingly instantaneously.<br /> <br />Yet we "know" that a quantum event need an "observer" and "observation" in order to collapse the probability wave that is all - apparently - that is "real" in any sense before an initial act of "observation" takes place.<br /> <br />How is there an "observation" that collapses the "probability waves" of the particles and sub-particles from which DNA is constructed at an atomic level?<br /> <br />Of course, the biggest challenge for modern physics is probably how to square the quantum dynamics that can be observed at the microscopic and cosmic level with relativity theory that operates at the macrocosmic level. (I like to think, as Sri Ramakrishna observed, that "God is in the microcosmos and the macrocosmos," a conclusion Einstein would undoubtedly support.)<br />I can only conclude that there is a pervading "consciousness" throughout our universe that is, in a quantum theoretical sense, the "observer." The renowned physicist (spiritual seeker and colleague of both Einstein and Krishnamurti), David Bohm, as explained in "The Dancing Wu Li Masters," said that it makes absolutely no sense to talk about a quantum system that is smaller than the universe itself. It is all part of an explicate "Whole" beneath which an "Implicate Order" operates. This is, of course, the conclusion that Eastern yogis and sages came to many thousands of years ago. It is certainly the view of the Buddhist Abidharma which, while old, is not as old as the Upanishads that express this holistic and cosmic perspective quite clearly.<br />Or, as Krishna tells Arjuna in the Bhagavad Gita (Chap. X:42):<br />". . . Know that with one single fraction of my Being, I pervade and support the Universe, and know that I AM."</span></blockquote>

Know that with one single fraction of my Being, I pervade and support the Universe, and know that I AM

Sometime ago I saw a video on the development of a human embryo. Shortly after the fertilized egg cell begins to divide - when there is a...

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Journaling within The Ten Stages

<span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> </span><br /> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixFwVFmEufsYIe-AZ8_aDUvihvhNo1Cmw4bqbZojLxDz1E-99Dxvu91lHJMF6MQFn8Ja6y_orVoSJ5tqwNf9SrZlvRAD_MPGA3MqTxcroUi3ZvW7eyDks6mUi4pzbMv4hqJOwVMU4jXmAH/s1600/Fotor0128132737KIDWITHIN.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixFwVFmEufsYIe-AZ8_aDUvihvhNo1Cmw4bqbZojLxDz1E-99Dxvu91lHJMF6MQFn8Ja6y_orVoSJ5tqwNf9SrZlvRAD_MPGA3MqTxcroUi3ZvW7eyDks6mUi4pzbMv4hqJOwVMU4jXmAH/s1600/Fotor0128132737KIDWITHIN.jpg" /></a></span></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;"> Journaling within The Ten Stages –  writing down the truth of our feelings, our point of view, our fears, our angers, our hopes, our expectations, our desires, our fantasies, our hatreds, our regrets, our thoughts, our memories, our prejudices, our secret loves, our painful experiences, our humiliations, our past traumas – requires our trust and consent to foster intimacy with ourself and our child within. This self-intimacy is the essence of good contact with our hidden child within. Many of us find it difficult to journal – or journal in a deep and prolonged way – because of the strange new feelings of being emotionally intimate with ourself for the first time. But if we can tolerate the potential discomfort, if you can sit with the truth of who we really are and look at our truth expressed on the page in front of us, then we can nurture a wonderful relationship with our greatest ally: our own true self, the child within!</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagescommunity.blogspot.com/2015/09/child-within-journaling.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/361383856_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; 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display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">Joining The Ten Stages Study starts the emotional healing process</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://childwithinus.blogspot.com/2015/08/we-must-embrace-uncertainty-in-our.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/356892478_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://childwithinus.blogspot.com/2015/08/we-must-embrace-uncertainty-in-our.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We must embrace uncertainty in our recovery if we are to grow</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/10/we-need-stagers-who-can-let-us-be-who.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/364025985_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/10/we-need-stagers-who-can-let-us-be-who.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">We need stagers who can let us be who we are - and not brag about the ten stages.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-ten-stages-is-natural-process-and.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/347418931_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://socialpsychologists.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-ten-stages-is-natural-process-and.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">The Ten Stages is a natural process, and there is an emotional logic to it.</a></li> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://stagescommunity.blogspot.com/2015/03/when-we-become-tuned-in-emotionally-to.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/336854372_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://stagescommunity.blogspot.com/2015/03/when-we-become-tuned-in-emotionally-to.html" style="background-image: none; display: block; height: 83px; line-height: 12pt; overflow: hidden; padding: 5px 2px 0 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank">When we become tuned in emotionally to child withins feelings, and learn to validate our child withins perceptions</a></li> </ul> </div>

Journaling within The Ten Stages

Journaling within The Ten Stages –  writing down the truth of our feelings, our point of view, our fears, our angers, our hopes, our ex...

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As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEif2jH5zXkQim8M0BSEZXAZNhS7ZVLMgzT6lX_EZgTs-d1m2C1LHglp0nN5vQhy5mNhAClYzUjrR4vgpPqafMgX2VWiOLEgtZEXF8c65RRs-yg7dZs2g4RIdvh-9RGzsuGK4e0oKMxMD8XD/s1600/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEif2jH5zXkQim8M0BSEZXAZNhS7ZVLMgzT6lX_EZgTs-d1m2C1LHglp0nN5vQhy5mNhAClYzUjrR4vgpPqafMgX2VWiOLEgtZEXF8c65RRs-yg7dZs2g4RIdvh-9RGzsuGK4e0oKMxMD8XD/s320/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: Courier New, Courier, monospace; font-size: large;">As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations. We see with heartbreak the decimation of relationships and our original family.  We realise with horror that they never grew into their full, conscious capacity, but instead remained wounded, troubled children who were easy to exploit and ready to exploit in turn. And so we rebel, but wildly, unconsciously. We see that our unconscious child within has not only poisoned the planet but poisoned every new generation we mindlessly create. Awakened to this nightmare, we scream with protests and movements of various kinds to stop social deception. As we fight to heal our outer world we begin to heal our inner world—and step toward inner, integrated truth. We begin to sense that we have lost our way and our child hidden within. We seek a better way of being recovered. And as we become increasingly conscious, we start to evolve into a new, true, and sustainable life.</span>

As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation

As we complete the ten stages we awaken with shock at the devastating impact of our traumatisation, and to the costs of our dissociations....

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At The Ten Stages we are in the true recovery process of becoming free of our trauma.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEif2jH5zXkQim8M0BSEZXAZNhS7ZVLMgzT6lX_EZgTs-d1m2C1LHglp0nN5vQhy5mNhAClYzUjrR4vgpPqafMgX2VWiOLEgtZEXF8c65RRs-yg7dZs2g4RIdvh-9RGzsuGK4e0oKMxMD8XD/s1600/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEif2jH5zXkQim8M0BSEZXAZNhS7ZVLMgzT6lX_EZgTs-d1m2C1LHglp0nN5vQhy5mNhAClYzUjrR4vgpPqafMgX2VWiOLEgtZEXF8c65RRs-yg7dZs2g4RIdvh-9RGzsuGK4e0oKMxMD8XD/s320/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Stagers are in the business of becoming free of their trauma. Our repressed fears from childhood and also the suppression of our creative gifts that were too much for our limited families have been healed and emancipated. The child withins unconscious is cleared and the life force flows freely through our beings. We are filled with the light of consciousness and therefore are recovered. We are a sustainable variation of society since we have learned to live in harmony with ourselves, others, and nature. Through conscious living we build a new creation with ethical social structures that allow us to prosper. We see that all of humanity and nature are interconnected. All of creation is one evolving organism seeking truth, love, and wisdom. As we continue to grow, unfettered by trauma, we are open to new thoughts and new visions. In fact, we start to evolve consciousness, expanding truth and deepening what it means to be human.</span>

At The Ten Stages we are in the true recovery process of becoming free of our trauma.

Stagers are in the business of becoming free of their trauma. Our repressed fears from childhood and also the suppression of our creative ...

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Most of us are ruled by trauma—not truth.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXPFEJpejh8KyMaWX00k5b9FORMC5XNpcgjYpKgf3PfwfNA5hIEPp71btcK5Dqed8_xItlLt7gHZzPOETdEm-ktZhfR66P6QdcwYb6o6NLjhrN5ByhdNMxFXbencGh-lExngmSWRajrlxJ/s1600/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgXPFEJpejh8KyMaWX00k5b9FORMC5XNpcgjYpKgf3PfwfNA5hIEPp71btcK5Dqed8_xItlLt7gHZzPOETdEm-ktZhfR66P6QdcwYb6o6NLjhrN5ByhdNMxFXbencGh-lExngmSWRajrlxJ/s320/FotorCreatedgrey.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Most of us are ruled by trauma—not truth. We are the norm. We remain unconscious of the legacy of dissociation that we carry from our families and ancestors. We are destructive towards ourselves, others, and our planet home. In essence, we are wounded children, seeking to exploit others and the world in order to make up for the deficits of our childhood. We are rapacious and violent—which are expressions of our childhood neglect. We befoul society with impunity. We are not sustainable. We mindlessly procreate, using our own children as a diverting dissociation from the traumas we carry but deny. We hope our children will fulfil our own thwarted dreams, and when this doesn’t happen our children receive our rage. Sadly, this is child abuse and creates yet another generation of troubled people on an already crowded planet. As we continue to lead unconscious lives, we exploit natural and human resources to a breaking point, such that our extinction looms.</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://mindofcalm.blogspot.com/2015/12/we-cannot-drop-ball-unless-we-are.html" style="border-radius: 2px; box-shadow: 0px 0px 4px #999; display: block; padding: 2px; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank"><img src="//i.zemanta.com/364062607_80_80.jpg" style="border: 0; display: block; margin: 0; max-width: 100%; padding: 0; width: 80px;" /></a><a href="http://mindofcalm.blogspot.com/2015/12/we-cannot-drop-ball-unless-we-are.html" style="background-image: none; 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Most of us are ruled by trauma—not truth.

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Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts.

<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> </div> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOdoIzs8Mn-4mavGJ0UyvHMDkP9s91mMeFnOZgruc3jV8SoS11gcYIQT6JEXoUFL-zc5rcOKaRmkAPGGEVWcEbJ88_27EFTKesA5YZxMGFz_q_KeK1kpVpU8_BJyj7S-jqtyqAAuklB0/s1600/child+mimics.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="268" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjsOdoIzs8Mn-4mavGJ0UyvHMDkP9s91mMeFnOZgruc3jV8SoS11gcYIQT6JEXoUFL-zc5rcOKaRmkAPGGEVWcEbJ88_27EFTKesA5YZxMGFz_q_KeK1kpVpU8_BJyj7S-jqtyqAAuklB0/s320/child+mimics.jpg" width="320" /></a></div> <span style="font-family: "courier new" , "courier" , monospace; font-size: large;">Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts. For those who receive immediate, reliable and trustworthy support, childhood pain is ephemeral, and long time mental health symptoms few. Where support is delayed, unreliable or deceptive, long-term effects can be problematic. Indeed they tend to last until such time as the support that was initially missing is made good – which is the only legitimate objective of today’s recovery therapy.<br /><br />You know with 100% certainty that our trauma is over – the addiction sufferer in front of you does not. our task is to convey this belief, this ‘fact’ from us to them. So a pre-requisite on our part is to believe it ourself, at least to believe that this is the problem, the chief problem, if not the only problem. Since this runs counter to recovery training – let’s take another concrete recovery example.<br /><br />Within our recovery lesions of our mind we are still being traumatised today, mentally. This elementary recovery fact took us decades to grasp, and even today surprises. The abuse, as far as we, the sufferer is concerned, continues, indeed it is about to happen ‘next’. The paralysing symptoms are not so much ‘flash-backs’, as ‘flash-surfacings’ – the original trauma has become ‘frozen’ as in a ‘freeze-frame’ – it never went away. Thought and reasoning, as mentioned, has ceased. Mentally, the sufferer is therefore blindly (and impotently) waiting to be raped, tortured, kidnapped, abandoned, starved, emotionally deprived, or otherwise dumped at death’s door, all over again. And that’s all. Our trauma has never stopped in our minds – this is the lesion, the pathology. Cognition just doesn’t apply – it’s not functioning, it’s been put on hold, as if our life depended on it. And until it starts again, all manner of weird and wonderful symptoms are concocted, limited only by the creative imagination of the human mind – their immediate effect is to befuddle us with endlessly variegated symptoms, their ultimate purpose to defer the inevitable ‘end’ which the sufferer is convinced lies just around the corner, perpetuated irrationally by the persistent cognitive fog helped by our dissociations of our addictions to alcohol, romance,drugs etc.</span><br /> <div class="zemanta-related" style="clear: both; margin-top: 20px; overflow: hidden;"> <h4 class="zemanta-related-title"> Related articles</h4> <ul class="zemanta-article-ul zemanta-article-ul-image" style="margin: 0; overflow: hidden; padding: 0;"> <li class="zemanta-article-ul-li-image zemanta-article-ul-li" style="background: none; display: block; float: left; font-size: 11px; list-style: none; margin: 2px 10px 10px 2px; padding: 0; text-align: left; vertical-align: top; width: 84px;"><a href="http://intuitivevoices.blogspot.com/2015/07/just-by-making-contact-with-child.html" style="border-radius: 2px; 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Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts.

Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts. For those who receive immediate, reliable and trustworthy support, ...

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