Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve.

Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve. Why have we been attracted to the the type of people that we have been in relationship with in our life? 

Why do we react in certain ways in certain situations? 
Where do our strange behaviour patterns come from? 
Why do we sometimes feel so: helpless; lonely; desperate; scared; angry; and some times suicidal.

Just starting to ask these types of questions, is the first step in the healing Stages process. It is healthy to start wondering about the cause and effect dynamics of dissociational escapism in our life.

In our dissociation, we react to life out of a black and white, right and wrong, belief paradigm that taught us that is was shameful and bad to be wrong, to make mistakes, to be imperfect - to be human. 

We formed our core relationship with our self and with life in early childhood based on the messages we recieved, the emotional trauma we suffered, and the role modelling of the adults around us. As we grew up, we built our relationship with self, other people, and life on the foundation we formed in this early childhood.

When we were five, we were already reacting to life out of the emotional trauma of earlier childhood experience. We adapted defences to try to protect ourselves and to get our survival needs met. The defences adapted at five due to the trauma suffered at earlier ages led to further trauma when we were seven that then caused us to adjust our defences, that led to deep dissociations in our teenage years

Toxic dissociation is the belief that there is something inherently wrong with who we are, with our being. Guilt is "I made a mistake, I did something wrong." The Toxic dissociation is: "I am a mistake. There is something wrong with me."
It is important to start awakening to the Truth that there is nothing inherently wrong with our child within - it is our relationship with our child within and with our adult life that is dysfunctional. And that relationship was formed in our early childhood.

The way that one begins child within consciousness is simply to become aware of our hidden side.

To become aware that the governing principle in life is cause and effect.

To become aware that our relationship with our self is dysfunctional.

To change our awareness that we have the power to understand and change our relationship with our child within.

To understand that we were programmed with false beliefs about the purpose and nature of life in early childhood - and that we can change that programming.

To allow our child within to acknowledge that we have emotional wounds from childhood that it is possible to get in touch with our child within and to understand to re-connect from the dictating dysfunctional adult that we have become the frozen emotional life we are living  today.

That is the purpose of child within solution - to stop letting our experiences of the past dictate how we respond to life today. It cannot be done without re-connecting to our childhood hidden within.

We need to become to raise our consciousness. To re-map a new level of consciousness for ourselves that allows us to observe ourselves from the viewpoint of our child within.

It is vitally important to start observing ourselves - our reactions, our feelings, our thoughts - from a child within place that is not shaming.

We all have developed an inner judgemental critic, a critical parent voice, that beats us up with shame, judgement, and fear. The critical parent voice developed to try to control our emotions and our behaviours because we got the message there was something wrong with us and that our survival would be threatened if we did, said, or felt the "wrong" things.

It is vital to start learning how to connect and free ourselves not give power to that critical shaming voice. We need to start observing ourselves with compassion. This is almost impossible at the beginning of our  healing process - having compassion for our self, being Loving to our self, is the hardest thing for us to do.Making gentle contact with our child hidden within paramount

So, we need to start to re-connect to our child within ourselves from a neutral perspective of our childhood. Become a child observer, a perfect child within -  of our own inner process as it were.

We need to start observing our childhood and asking ourselves where that reaction / thought / feeling is coming from. Why am I feeling this way? What does this remind me of from my past? How old do I feel right now? How old did I act when that happened?

One of the amazing things about this process, is that as one starts to become more aware of our own perfect child within, we also start to become more aware of others. We start seeing when the people in our lives are reacting like a little kid, or adolescent, or teenager, or whatever. The more we become aware of their reactions, the easier it becomes to stop taking their behaviour personally - which then makes it easier to detach from our own adult constructed reactions and observe ourselves from our child within viewpoint.

It is an amazing, miraculous process, that can help us to change our relationship with our self, with other people, and with life. Becoming more aware, becoming conscious of a new way of looking at ourselves and life is the beginning of a process of learning to forgive and understand our child within that has become trapped within ourselves.

 Understanding the mystery of the conscious perfect child within of why we have lived our lives as we have, we can start to free ourselves from our past. By understanding the miracle of child within intact consciousness, we can learn how to really be liberated instead of just surviving and enduring.