Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts.

Every child falls over, and for some, mum or dad dies, and it hurts. For those who receive immediate, reliable and trustworthy support, childhood pain is ephemeral, and long time mental health symptoms few. Where support is delayed, unreliable or deceptive, long-term effects can be problematic. Indeed they tend to last until such time as the support that was initially missing is made good – which is the only legitimate objective of today’s recovery therapy.

You know with 100% certainty that our trauma is over – the addiction sufferer in front of you does not. our task is to convey this belief, this ‘fact’ from us to them. So a pre-requisite on our part is to believe it ourself, at least to believe that this is the problem, the chief problem, if not the only problem. Since this runs counter to recovery training – let’s take another concrete recovery example.

Within our recovery lesions of our mind we are still being traumatised today, mentally. This elementary recovery fact took us decades to grasp, and even today surprises. The abuse, as far as we, the sufferer is concerned, continues, indeed it is about to happen ‘next’. The paralysing symptoms are not so much ‘flash-backs’, as ‘flash-surfacings’ – the original trauma has become ‘frozen’ as in a ‘freeze-frame’ – it never went away. Thought and reasoning, as mentioned, has ceased. Mentally, the sufferer is therefore blindly (and impotently) waiting to be raped, tortured, kidnapped, abandoned, starved, emotionally deprived, or otherwise dumped at death’s door, all over again. And that’s all. Our trauma has never stopped in our minds – this is the lesion, the pathology. Cognition just doesn’t apply – it’s not functioning, it’s been put on hold, as if our life depended on it. And until it starts again, all manner of weird and wonderful symptoms are concocted, limited only by the creative imagination of the human mind – their immediate effect is to befuddle us with endlessly variegated symptoms, their ultimate purpose to defer the inevitable ‘end’ which the sufferer is convinced lies just around the corner, perpetuated irrationally by the persistent cognitive fog helped by our dissociations of our addictions to alcohol, romance,drugs etc.

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