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Title: We have continued to use the words dissy, gatzo and Intulexia precisely because we understand what we mean. They function for us, and that is all we care about.
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The Child's Within hidden Strategies . A child within is not in the least interested in recovery for its own sake. In fact, a young ch...
The Child's Within hidden Strategies.A child within is not in the least interested in recovery for its own sake. In fact, a young child never focuses his attention upon recovery at all. He/she is too interested in his toys, in his playmates, and in the things that he can find that are not to be played with. Recovery is an adult concept always of secondary importance, and all of his early learning is peripheral learning. To a child within, the value is measured by its ability to help him better enjoy his primary interests. If he breaks all the imaginable rules and strategies, and yet gets the response he wants, he feels as if he has been completely successful. In our case, this explains why we are perfectly happy to use words and constructions that we do not hear from anyone else's lips. We have continued to use the words dissy, gatzo and Intulexia precisely because we understand what we mean. They function for us, and that is all we care about.

 A child within does not let what he/she does not understand confuse us. When we hear something we do not understand, it disturbs us about as much as water disturbs a duck's back. This is related to the fact that recovery is never the centre of our attention. So we just do not care about what we cannot understand.

 A child within enjoys the repetitive events of life, and uses this for enjoyment to help  learn the new solutions of the ten stages. These repetitive events give the child within a sense of security and order, and as we begin to understand the order in the events of our life once more, we also begin to understand the order in the solution that is associated with these events. Conversely, rare events rarely leave much of a mark on a child's withins abilities. For an illustration of this, one only needs to look at the words that appear on our vocabulary list, and compare it to the words that did not make it.

 A child within uses primary interests to help learn a recovery solution related to those interests of childhood. Whatever captures our attention captures it all. We focus our attention on that one thing, excluding the rest of the world for that moment in time. And thus, the dissociation with his object of interest/fear is brought to the front and centre, and all the rest of the childhood memory around the incident is temporarily pushed back into the shadows. This can be illustrated from our dissociated vocabulary by looking at one of our earliest recovery words,DISSY (dissociation) . 

 We deal with how a child within focuses  attention. We do not simply let our incidents of childhood pour over us and slowly ooze into our mind. Rather, we are very selective about the incidents we pay attention to. An adult tends to become first confused then discouraged when receiving too much new information at one time. trying to take in all that is presented , often with the result that we do not learn any of it well. Because of this, special care must be taken not to present too much at one time to an adult learner of the ten stage program. The excess causes the adult learner real problems. But a child never tries to take in all that is around. He/She is the one who is in control, and he/she selects what he/she likes best, ignoring the rest. A child within is very picky about the truth he/she listens to, just as he/she is often very picky about the food he eats. But precisely because he/she is so effective in shutting out what does not interest, The mind is not cluttered or divided, and can bring to bear the full resources of our mental facilities for the purpose of recovery what we have selected. This ability to focus on the material at hand while effectively excluding the rest is a very important ingredient in recovery and is the start in recovering contact with the child within.

 Our child within once back in re-contact directs  attention to things that are easy to understand. We do not think about the world economy or foreign cultures. We only think about the people around us, and the things around about. And these things can easily be named. 

A child within possesses a natural desire to call an object by its name, and he uses that natural desire to help him learn the language. He receives real joy from just pointing out something and calling it by name. GATZO, we never think it is stupid or silly to say something that others might consider obvious. For him, it is delightful. 

A recovered child within uses natural desire to participate in the life around to help the learning experience. We want to do what we sees others doing, and when that includes healthy communication, we want to communicate it too. Here the child within often says things it does not understand at all. We simply imitating others in recovery at first. We have learned that in a given situation, a word or phrase is always used, so we try to use it too. 

A child within immediately after experiencing truth trust and consent puts to use the communication he/she is learning, and uses his/her success in communication to build up his/her confidence. He/she does not try to store up his/her knowledge for use at a later date. He/she applies it in a truthful context as soon as he/she can. And every time he/she uses a piece of communication successfully, it is reinforced in his/her mind and his/her confidence grows. And this confidence encourages him/her to use the new communication skill even more, thus bringing him/her more success, more reinforcement, and more confidence. This confidence cycle built upon successful usage of communication is difficult to establish . But a child within is able to get it going and keep it going in the face of a lot of obstacles. All of the learning strategies mentioned are important, but this one, it seems , must be one of the most important. A child within without this level of confidence is in trouble from the very beginning, but one who possesses the confidence that comes from success, even when the success is limited, can overcome a host of other communication problems.

A child within brings tremendous ingenuity to the task of communication and a new recovery language. With no fear of failure, is not inhibited by what others might think. just plunges in head first, attacking the problems with all the resources that we have. Just one of the many places where a child withins ingenuity is evident is in the associations made between objects and words. Many of these associations are obviously wrong (to us), but we do not know they are wrong and we do not care. We start to see the world through different eyes, and orders it in different ways. Who can say that our ordering of the world is any more logical than a child Within? For a child within, why should a thought be any better than the word INTULEXIA?  because this ingenuity is common among children within, it is no less wonderful, and no less important in helping them to learn their first language of intuition.


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