Intulexic Conversation is not always Zen.

Intulexic Conversation is not always Zen. There are two parts—speaking and listening—to any dialogue, both of which are entangled in the concepts of human language. There is no escape into sensory data. We simply must engage with the ideas.

From our perspective, speaking seems to be little more than thinking out loud. Our thoughts simply move from within to without. The outer voice, fortunately, seems to have a filter that the child within does not. But the functioning of this filtration system is deeply confusing to me. And when it doesn’t work, I’m even more confused.Why did I just tell a lie or an exaggeration.

However mystifying these processes may be, a meta-awareness of our speech is crucial for connecting with others. Without noticing certain habit patterns—gossip, lying, self-talk, useless chatter—we can’t see how poorly they reflect on us. When someone is jabbering about total strangers, it takes real effort to feign interest. But how often are we, in fact, the tiresome bore?

“There is this mismatch between what we think makes us look good, and what we effortlessly recognise looks bad on other people,”  “It’s like a piece of clothing you could wear which you thought looked great on yourself, but the moment you put it on another person, you could recognise that this is the least flattering thing a person could possibly wear.”