You are awareness. Awareness is another name for you.Essentially, consciousness can be regarded as mind with objects, whereas awareness refers to mind without objects.

One perennial obstacle in the consideration of consciousness, however,is that the terms “consciousness” and “awareness” are often used interchangeably, resulting in a lot of ensuing confusion and misunderstanding… Essentially, consciousness can be regarded as mind with objects, whereas awareness refers to mind without objects.


In this perspective, consciousness might be considered the relative nature of mind, since it is transitory and dependent on conditions, whereas awareness would be regarded as a reflection of the absolute nature of mind, since it is the unchanging background.


Whatever is subject to change has no enduring reality. Since consciousness is always moving, it cannot comprehend the motionless, so it falls into silence.


Just so, by dis-engaging from identification with the stream of thought objects, a space is created for awareness to shine forth unobstructed. This is the purpose of meditation, releasing attention from the passing neural parade by being aware of being aware. In this way, attention can penetrate the surface layers where it typically resides and fall back into its source – the silent and aware, transparent and spacious essence of mind’s true nature.


Ramana Maharshi put it this way: “



You are awareness. Awareness is another name for you. Since you are awareness there is no need to attain or cultivate it. All that you have to do is to give up being aware of other things, that is, of the not-self. If one gives up being aware of them then pure awareness alone remains . . .”


Through repeated practice of detachment from “other things”, the power of the mind to abide in its source increases. Thus, the spiritual endeavor in its most fundamental form is a process of letting go, surrender.


The sages are unanimous in their suggestion that we give up our obsessions with the past and future, our efforts at trying to force life into our idea of the way it should be, and simply relax into our natural state, which is peace.


In the beginning, there is effort involved, because the distracting power of our mental habits is strong, and the “monkey mind” will not willingly relinquish its throne, but with consistent practice, the effort becomes effortless, and a natural and relaxed spontaneity blossoms.


We no longer need to mistake the body and its consciousness for who and what we are, because those errors in discernment and identification have been outshone by the clear recognition of our true nature — Awareness.

No matter the trauma. we made it. Try not to carry that backpack of negativity any longer than necessary.

No matter the trauma. we made it. Try not to carry that backpack of negativity any longer than necessary. And note, you are not your parents — defy your abusive genetics. Experience a rebirthing .That’s why you are here to study the stages.

I was a lost soul, carrying tremendous weight from my past

I was a lost soul, carrying tremendous weight from my past, weight that no one deserves to carry. I truly didn’t know why I walked this earth. Until I started the Stages and found my intuitive voice again.

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• Especially at first as we engage with The Stages, we become more aware of our rampant thoughts and violent emotional swings.
• Ego Jumps Around causing chaos and drama - Stage Intuition is Consistent
• Starting to engage in an inner dialogue with the intuitive mind: This form of self-reflection allows us to ask ourselves a question in our own mind

In the stages we experiment with our honesty we attempt to re-create the channel of truth between the intuitive voice and mind.

In the stages we experiment with our honesty we attempt to re-create the channel of truth between the intuitive voice and mind. Those of us who nurture it are imbued with enormous power: the power to see, the power to know, the power to differentiate, the power to reflect, the power to choose, the power to speak the truth, and ultimately the power to grow.

We have learned to be dishonest in an attempt to eschew our power in life. We live as victims, strapped into the childhood ruts our parents lovingly beat them into. We lie not only to our closest intimates but to ourselves. Our inner truth is dangerous because it connects with all our years of buried pain and rage and sadness and hurt. If it were to explode it would crush our fragile external lives – and force us to realise just how unloved we are by ourselves and our present intimates and how unloved they were in their childhoods by those entrusted to guide their existences.

But at the same time this explosion would free our real purpose for being. Suddenly our lives would find hope – and a path toward peace. This peace might kill us, as it has killed some, but at least we would die knowing for once who we really were.

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• Self-doubt is painful and unpleasant, but valuable.
• STAGE 9: Within Stage 9 We come to acknowledge our journey into reality through the stages.

We have to admit that we do have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives.

STAGE 1:We have to admit that we do have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives.That all of our unresolved childhood traumas have caused our lives to become so disturbed and dysfunctional and that they can be healed and we can be restored into our recovery.. We admit that the root of our problem is the trauma we experienced as a child and acknowledge, that’s why we come to the stages. If we can cure the root cause of our dysfunctions then and only then everything will be change in our life.

To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society

To understand dissociation is to understand the confidence tricks of a soporific society we become are haunted by anxiety and stress of having to keep escaping our genuine feelings and of having to pretend to be happy all the time. we know this for ourselves because this is what we have become conditioned to have. We constantly don’t want to get into this too much.We learn to practice avoid-ant behaviours in collusion with our parents. And by escaping our innermost feelings, we create an inner void which is filled with either addictions or other people constantly manufacturing new dramas that we endlessly replicate.
We feel at the Stages that we have found the explanation for why we are suffering so much. Especially the topics we address about this inner “void” we constantly construct, how morality keeps you away from you genuine “negative” feelings against your parents, how these feelings will express themselves in either violence or illness or addictions. 

We have never experienced genuine emotional communication in our upbringing or our lives, so we can never believe that other people would ever be interested in our emotions and interior life. Which causes us a lot of feelings of abandonment , loneliness and guilt. But only after we have re-learned to trust our feelings and started to share them, do we discover at the stages that there are people who do communicate in this way. This is very new to us, because all our lives we have only experienced communication based on our “masks”, our “façade”, our “false self” and we could only relate to other grandiose,masked people, because we didn't want to be abandoned by them. And we actually thought that this was really normal.

Our own parents are afflicted by;the deprivations of their bodies We as children of any age are forced to fill these deprivations of our parents, and in the process our child will have to sacrifice their own needs and feelings. And then the whole generational cycle starts all over again. We believe that the only way out of this, is to stop denying the feelings and emotions behind these feelings of emptiness and depression. And in the process to pay more attention to our child within the hidden self, to ourselves and our needs and strive to live in the fresh new world of the stages.

When we are dissociated we are not at peace with ourselves at all.

When we are dissociated we are not at peace with ourselves at all.

WE are haunted by anxiety and stress of having to keep escaping our genuine feelings and of having to pretend to be happy all the time. We recognise this for ourselves because this is what the way we used to be. And by escaping our feelings, we create an inner void which is filled with either addictions or other people.

When we start to hear the messages in the stages we become shocked, defensive my childhood experiences

When we start to hear the messages in the stages we become shocked, defensive my childhood experiences weren't that bad because we have been used to being deceived and told how grown up, adult and smart and wise and enlightened and healthy we already are.


We are actively encouraged to being told it was just fine for them to have children. We have become used to being told that our abuse of our children is not really abuse and that our conditional love for our children really was love.


We have become used to being told that our own lies and insanity are actually perfectly healthy and normal. We are used to listening to false gurus and old prophets when we have problems. We are used to being told that our mindless behaviour was wise, and that we are doing the right thing by building a wall between our consciousness and the wrenching pain of our true, deep spirit.


Lies we have got used to being told that our culture is healthy, our treatment of the earth’s resources was progressive, our romantic relationships are beautiful, our love for our parents was appropriate and warranted, our histories of abuse are overrated, our gurus are indeed gurus, our wars are largely justified, our petty prejudices are acceptable as long as we did not push them in others’ faces, and that our hatreds were rational.


We have become used to being placated and numbed and medicated and enslaved and psychically castrated by those who are profiting from our herd mentality. And we have always thought this was what love was.


We become very uncomfortable that this study course would dare to contradict everything we hold dear. And yet the Stages resonated with us on some deep and long-forgotten level. We are not used to hearing the truth. It makes us curious. And it also makes some of us violently reject this message.I was one such person but this is a course of study and experiential action with others.It is base on loving-kindness and compassion for our individual truth.

We come to believe that since there is an intuitive hidden voice within us,

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We come to believe that since there is an intuitive hidden voice within us, that is, our true self hidden within, that this voice must be inside of us and with us – and that this internal unrealised consciousness, can save us. Basically, We can take care of ourselves because we am now become prepared too understand the wounds of our child within, too completely identify, and come to an understanding that will restore us! We have to put our faith back in our child within – and Undo the crushing fear of the others personality that created such a deranged personality of self destruction.

Don’t blame ourselves for our rage, our sadness, our frustration, our testiness.

Don’t blame ourselves for our rage, our sadness, our frustration, our testiness. Too few of us consider the healthiness of our child withins negative feelings, especially negative feelings toward ourselves, and instead either rationalise them as a abnormal part of the unrecovered life, and therefore something to be ignored, or pathologised as something mentally ill, and therefore something to be quelled hidden from site,ignored or squashed down. It is easy for us, with the power of authority invested in us, to neutralise our child’s within anger. But this doesn’t make us right, and instead cruelly violates our child’s truth. If our child is angry at us, chances are it’s for an excellent reason! We have to Study ourselves. Look within. If you look hard enough you will find the answer. The intuitive voice you uncover will give you the answer.

The intuitive voice you uncover will give you the answer.

Don’t blame ourselves for our rage, our sadness, our frustration, our testiness. Too few of us consider the healthiness of our child withins negative feelings, especially negative feelings toward ourselves, and instead either rationalise them as a abnormal part of the unrecovered life, and therefore something to be ignored, or pathologies as something mentally ill, and therefore something to be quelled hidden from site, ignored or squashed down. It is easy for us, with the power of authority invested in us, to neutralise our child’s within anger. But this doesn’t make us right, and instead cruelly violates our child’s truth. If our child is angry at us, chances are it’s for an excellent reason! We have to Study ourselves. Look within. 

If you look hard enough you will find the answer. The intuitive voice you uncover will give you the answer.

The path to our recovery is highly stressful, and triply.

The path to recovery is highly stressful, and triply. There are many ways to lower stress, a few of which we will mention: work a more relaxed job, exercise gently and regularly, keep more mature company, live according to a healthy and consistent routine, eat well, live below our means financially, take good care of our body, get as much of a good night’s sleep as possible every night, and keep your mind active and focused on creative pursuits – on learning and growth. In short, parent ourselves as well as the best mother/father parents our child within!

Where we carry unresolved childhood traumas we will replicate them on to our relationships with everyone

Where we carry unresolved childhood traumas we will replicate them on to our relationships with everyone. Our constant searching picking at the scar tissue of our unresolved wounds nibbles away at our relationships destroying our partially unconscious self are the norm. We give our child within the greatest gift by healing our own ancient wounds.

The Ten Stage Workshop Quotes

The Ten Stage Workshop Quotes

Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) mimics recovery – but it isn’t recovery.

What is Dissociation (being split-off from one’s deepest truth) mimics recovery– but it isn’t recovery. People who are dissociated live in great peace. But this is only because they have blocked their negative feelings. The recovered person resolves his negatives feelings, and thus his peace is not false. Emotional detachment, in recovery, can mean two different things. In the first meaning, it refers to an "inability to connect" with others emotionally, as well as a means of dealing with anxiety by preventing certain situations that trigger it; it is often described as "emotional numbing" or dissociation, depersonalisation or in its chronic form depersonalisation disorder. In the second sense, it is a decision to avoid engaging emotional connections, rather than an inability or difficulty in doing so, typically for personal, social, or other reasons. In this sense it can allow people to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands.


We who are dissociated do not suffer. But this is only because they have abandoned their healing process and numbed their pain. Enlightenment grows from the fertilised soil of suffering.


People who are dissociated call themselves recovered. But this is only because they have they have no conception of what recovery is. Recovery is the polar opposite of dissociation.


People who are dissociated are not easily emotionally ruffled. But this is only because there lies a thick wall buffering their hidden, vulnerable self from the sharp and often honest edges of the world. The recovered are much less protected, but have such a deep core of self-love that they can defend themselves gently.


People who are dissociated feel they have mastered forgiveness. But this is only because they completely deny the harm done to them – and the damage remaining. The enlightened forgive spontaneously and without effort because they have fully embraced their damaged parts and grieved every honest ounce of their misery.


People who are dissociated are extremely self-confident. But this is only because their self-deceptive armour is impenetrable to self-reflection. The self-confidence of recovered enlightenment is fed by the universal spring of life.


People who are dissociated gravitate naturally toward leadership roles. But this is only because they are experts at leading themselves away from their heart’s true course. The recovered enlightened person leads right to the heart of the matter.


People who are dissociated have gone through hell to get to where they’re at. But they fail to realise that they’re still stuck right in hell. Recovered Enlightenment is the freedom of emotional integration.


People who are dissociated feel they have found their true self. But this is only because they equate their true self with no self at all – or at best a false self or ego based on a distorted sense of consciousness. Recovery is the true self linked with the conscious mind.


People who are dissociated consider themselves paragons of spirituality. But this is only because their spirits are so buried behind walls of denial that they have no conception of what spirit is. Recovery is the passionate spirit of the child held by the consciousness of the adult.


People who are dissociated are quite motivated, sophisticated, and convincing. But this is only because they perennially risk returning to suffering if they do not convince everyone of their lie. Recovery brings a motivation to spread the truth that is everyone’s birthright.


People who are dissociated act decisively. But this is only because they cannot see or question their unconscious motivation. The enlightened person is also decisive, but only because he has no unconscious, because in his healing process it, like a now-useless appendage, has dissolved.


Dissociation is contrary to Recovery.

Behind dissociation lies unresolved trauma, and only once trauma is resolved can the light of consciousness enter the core of our being.

Recovery is our basic purpose here on earth

Recovery is our basic purpose here on earth. Its path offers the deepest nourishment and satisfaction. Its path is the way. But my feeling that full recovery is achievable is based on factors other than my heart simply telling me it is so. I used to be much less recovered. Now we are much more recovered. We have watched this path unfold over many days, weeks, months, and years, and we have learned the basic patterns of healing and growth. We can now comfortably extrapolate from our experience and see that there is no reason to think that if we continue on the path we are on that we can someday resolve all our trauma and know our deepest selves fully – becoming fully recovered.

What we’ve seen is that not very many people are willing or able to expend the necessary time or energy for recovery to take place.

What we’ve seen is that not very many people are willing or able to expend the necessary time or energy for recovery to take place. We who are seeking connection with full truth quickly compromise for lesser comforts. By denying the depths of our emotional un-resolution – and building a wall over our brewing discomfort within – We can often delude ourselves into believing that we are recovered people. If we are able to do this and at the same time maintain a conscious connection with the remaining parts of ourselves, we can easily pawn ourselves off as fully recovered people. The reality is that we are only partially recovered. The rest of us remains dissociated. And behind our dissociation remains unresolved trauma.

It is also worth noting how extremely difficult it is to strive for recovery in the midst of a society that is so dead set against heading in this direction. It is hard to grow without allies – and a deeply nurturing environment. The Stages attempts to bridge the gap to recovery.

Their is nothing remotely like THE TEN STAGES.

Their is nothing remotely like THE TEN STAGES. The best way for us to recover from all of our dysfunctions, old coping strategies and addictions, become mature, and engage our mental potential is to heal our unresolved childhood issues — and fast. No other idea in the history of recovery has remotely as much potential for healing.

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• Just by making contact with the child within starts an attempt to make an empathetic listening environment that engenders the process of building a new recovered self and the journey towards maturity begins
• Just by making contact with the child within and that their is an attempt to make an empathetic listening environment that starts the process of building a new recovered self

Awakening to the sense of that fundamental sense of unease, restlessness, boredom, overwhelm, unhappiness or dissatisfaction that drives so much of our human behaviour

Awakening to the sense of that fundamental sense of unease, restlessness, boredom, overwhelm, unhappiness or dissatisfaction that drives so much of our human behaviour, is it possible to pause before turning on our phone, biting our fingers, lighting a cigarette, pouring another glass of wine, eating too much cake, mindlessly turning on the TV, desperately grabbing for a comforting spiritual book, or whatever our favourite compulsion happens to be? Is it possible to pause, even for just one minute, and fully meet these unpleasant and unwanted sensations with an open heart—to give this disturbance the same kind of nonjudgmental and loving attention that we would give to whoever or whatever we hold most dear? Instead of turning away, can we turn towards this unpleasant inner disturbance and open to it completely? What exactly is it?
That question invites a non-conceptual meditative inquiry rooted in curiosity and love, a way of being with something that is entirely different from analytically thinking about the situation and coming up with labels, stories and explanations. Instead, can we pause the thought-machine and drop down into the body, feeling this disturbing and uncomfortable mix of sensations and feelings non-verbally, without commentary, exploring it all with the light of awareness, and also hearing the accompanying thoughts and stories without believing in the veracity of the messages they deliver, seeing these thoughts as impersonal, conditioned outpourings, allowing the whole disturbance to unfold and reveal itself? Instead of pushing the unpleasant or frightening sensations away, can we open to them and perhaps go right into the very core of them with awareness? Can we give up the search for escape or improvement—not forever, but in this moment? Can we be still in the midst of the storm, fully awake to however it actually is Here / Now?

In the practices of the stages study we continuously seeking to find our out our intuitive voice

In the practices of the stages study we continuously seeking to find our out our intuitive voice in the silence of meditation and the reality we now find ourselves in , we continue to develop the will and wisdom to follow it. We always accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth in the stages. Acknowledge our growth in awareness and our reality that we have always been sacred beings, interrelated with all living things, and we attempt to contribute to restoring peace and balance in our lives and the lives of others.

Within We come to acknowledge our journey into reality through the stages.

Within we come to acknowledge our journey into reality through the stages. Understanding our recovery journey now we have arrived at the point that we have started to understand what becoming recovered means we have during the course of the study realised that we no longer have the need to reach a dissociated state, We will realise that we dont have to be "the Best Little Boy in the world" and go out and begin our missions to proselytise our version of “the truth.”

We will feel intense discomfort and lack of confidence to pressure and manipulate others who suffer from addiction into our ways. On completion of the study course we understand what it is like to be dissociated from our unresolved childhood traumas and to follow this simple reliable program, without sponsors,mentors,gurus and doctors.


We have learned through a simple study course and a brave examination of ourselves ,in the company of other students ,to split-off from our ancient wounds just as they have done. We will understand the process used to control us that it will make us once more feel very grandiose to cajole other traumatised people into dissociating by requesting that they follow our adopted methods, and we will not acknowledge this as our grandiosity,Once more the hole in the soul will reopen and we will need to return to further restart our studies as we feel the pain of disassociation take hold. And if these newcomers fail to follow our studies we will gladly let them explore all different alternative recognising that is exactly what we have done in the past over and over again. .

We will become a master of recognising dissociation.

We will during our meditation become a master of recognising dissociation. We recognise its signs in ourselves and others who cling to a philosophy of the self that is full of holes. We will practice our meditations on a daily basis clearing the path to keep in conscious contact to our child within. 

We will be going deep inside the root of our being. We will in an instant comprehend reality . And we will stop practice splitting off into disassociation and making our life look fancy and interesting for others. We will talk to our child within and gain an idea who the child within really is, and we will listen to that child within our meditation and be able to realise that we have stopped ignoring the deepest and most basic essences of our being. We will have found a new beautiful capacity to find ourselves and realise that finally we have come home!

We’ll change our viewpoint and perception .

We’ll change our viewpoint and perception . We’ll come to recognise our dissociated and split-off self We will acknowledge in our reality the deep and powerful churning inner rage and fury and misery and sadness over what has been done to us We will acknowledge the impossible parent dream for the perfect child that we’ll have tried to become.We will loosen the attempts to come across as l the Best CHILD in the whole wide world. This child's that always needs to prove to another that we’ve changed. And on the surface WE WILL change. 

We will appear behaviourally different. we won’t get plastered and get violent for no reason and puke all over the new carpets and drive like an intoxicated maniac and frighten the hell out of everyone and force others to live with a pink elephant in their living room. No, the only pink elephant left in our life will be the pink elephant of our entire unconscious, which we won’t notice anymore because it will just get in our way of what looks like a reformed life. We’ll smile and convince others that we have reformed, even though underneath it we’ll still be as deformed a personality as ever. 

we reconstruct our truth in our reality we no longer have to come across as another person. Th masks are dropped. We become the genuine article living in our own time and space no longer controlled by others.

Now that we have gained an understanding we actively befriend our child within looking towards all the things we have done

Now that we have gained an understanding we actively befriend our child within looking towards all the things we have done– We feel strong enough to explore what was done to us and what motivated and still often motivates our behaviour . Was it that that which will please in the eyes of this external God (Mommy), and will we be ready to be loved once again. This motivation give us a very warm feeling inside, a dissociative feeling which we will mistake for being a sign-marker on our path to our recovery. We must understand that in the past we always forced to remember/forget that no one but us was responsible for our “defective character,” When the real and denial was that of Mommy/parent figure themselves! Mommy/significant other loves me, and she’s/hes the one who will save me was our programmed lie. She has everything do to with why I’m so messed up and dysfunctional! We begin to own our own truth and realise the BIG lie of our disassociation, this snippet of truth will lead us to true freedom like we have never known before.We will begin to have our own knowledge and know a deep peace.

With self-reflection we acknowledge where our acting out behaviour has come from

With self-reflection we acknowledge where our acting out behaviour has come from that is, we try to make an acknowledgement that our disturbed patterns are often just simply a replication of the traumas done to us when we were vulnerable and innocent and powerless in our family and at school as a child, We will now admit all the bad things that we have done to us, and not only that, we will make a list of our injuries cementing them into place by gently confiding over time to our child within (which we are convinced is the essence of ourselves) . We reject and move away from persons who buy into their own deluded and dissociative philosophy. Talk about thrusting themselves down blind alleys of belief, further cutting themselves off from deeper root of themselves within their child within. Who immediately identifies them as abusers.

Once we have studied our case in-depth with the help of the stage guides to believe that we have a true and potentially free self within

Once we have studied our case in-depth with the help of the stage guides we start to believe that we have a true and potentially free self within that lives under the mounds of unresolved childhood trauma which we don’t believe we even have. We will do an odd second best of looking within to find out what else might be just be inside of us. We will take an emotional inventory of the traumas foisted on us when we were a child, this is highly relevant to our healing recovery– and will tell us that we at depth are a lot more miserable and disturbed than we delude ourselves into believing.

Our Recovery causes us to discover the depth our parents and significant others really did mess us up worse than we thought, and that the upwelling pain coming from that potential discovery might want to drive us back into my old patterns of our dysfunctions. We do not partake in any “moral” inventory, or just study our morals, or our own “badness” and hurtful behaviour .Because the causes and effect of these actions created the judgemental parental voice that tortured our inner child and do not belong to us now.

We will totally understand the root causes and reasons why we can really take care of ourselves and heal our own wounds

We will totally understand the root causes and reasons why we can really take care of ourselves and heal our own wounds, and we will consciously decide that restoration of our split-off inner self – this child within all of us – can restore us. We will strongly feel this restoration of our childhood. This will allow us to destroy our unconscious, grandiose, and immature ideas that we are kings of our universe, and simply replace it on our beautiful child within, which will allow us all to keep alive the joy of humility.The miracle of loving-Kindness and Compassion. When we speak of God or Higher Power we are really speaking of the our own unconscious, grandiose feelings about ourselves, which follow the exact template of my idealised image of our dysfunctional parent figures.

We come to believe that since there is an intuitive hidden voice within us

We come to believe that since there is an intuitive hidden voice within us, that is, our true self hidden within, that this voice must be inside of us and with us – and that this internal unrealised consciousness, can save us. Basically, We can take care of ourselves because we am now become prepared too understand the wounds of our child within, too completely identify, and come to an understanding that will restore us! We have to put our faith back in our child within – and Undo the crushing fear of the others personality that created such a deranged personality of self destruction.

If its members go too far in expressing their true selves, they will not be accepted by the group.

The fellowships has helped millions to stop drinking,drugging, which is a vital step for everyone on the recovery path, but it inherently is limiting as a program and due to a level of dissociation that prevent its members from becoming fully recovered. The fellowships allows alcoholics/addicts a fellowship of peers, but it philosophy denies the full truth – and thus cannot provide fully express recovery over the long time. As such, if its members go too far in expressing their true selves, they will not be accepted by a group of their peers, who are intent on further dissociating behaviours.Staying stopped requires in-depth recovery without fear and continuing trauma.

Stagers Course Work

The Stagers course work has been broken down into its component parts to allow us to self reflect


Course 1:We understand we have the power to recharge our lives and stop being dependent on substances or other people for our self-esteem and security.


Course 2:We come to believe that our child within awakens the healing wisdom within us when we open ourselves to that intuitive power.

Course 3:We make a decision to become our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of our inner truth.


Course 4:We examine/self reflect on our beliefs, addictions, and dependent behaviour in the context of our life.


Course 5:We share with another person and ourselves all those things inside of us for which we feel shame and guilt from childhood. All the things we feel have been done to us that lack respect.


Course 6:We self reflect and enjoy our intelligence, strengths and creativity, remembering not to hide these qualities from ourselves and the guides.We tell them in a gentle way that respects us.


Course 7:We become willing to let go of guilt, shame and the learned behaviour that prevents us from loving ourselves and others.


Course 8:We make an inventory of what we feel has harmed our child within that which has harmed others and people who have harmed us, and take steps to clear out negative energy by making amends to ourselves and sharing our grievances with the guides and people we bring into our circle of child within trust in a respectful way to ourselves.


Course 9:We express love and gratitude to others within our circle and increasingly appreciate the wonder of life and the blessings we do have.


Course 10:We learn to trust our new found reality and daily communicate this new found reality with firstly our safe friends in our circle that we see what we see, we know what we know and we feel what we feel.


Course 11:We promptly admit to dissociation and make amends to ourselves and notify others when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyse or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others.


Course 12:We seek out situations,jobs, and people that affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful harmful, or demeaning to us.


Course 13:We take our stages to introduce us and nurture our child within to heal our physical bodies, organise our lives, reduce stress, and have fun.


Course 14:We seek to find our out our intuitive voice in the silence of meditation , developing the will and wisdom to follow it.


Course 15:We always accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth in the stages.


Course 16:We acknowledge our growth in awareness and our reality that we are sacred beings, interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance in our lives and the lives of others.

We have to finally admit that we do have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives,

We have to finally admit that we do have a true self within that can heal and regain control over our lives, all of our unresolved childhood traumas have caused our lives to become so disturbed and dysfunctional can be healed and we can be restored. We admit that the root of our problem is the trauma we experienced as a child and acknowledge, and that’s why we come to the stages. If we can cure the root cause of our dysfunctions then and only then everything will be okay!