Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve.

Child within understanding is a gentle form of probing our own sub-consciousness. We have a childhood mystery to solve. Why have we been attracted to the the type of people that we have been in relationship with in our life? 

Why do we react in certain ways in certain situations? 
Where do our strange behaviour patterns come from? 
Why do we sometimes feel so: helpless; lonely; desperate; scared; angry; and some times suicidal.

Just starting to ask these types of questions, is the first step in the healing Stages process. It is healthy to start wondering about the cause and effect dynamics of dissociational escapism in our life.

In our dissociation, we react to life out of a black and white, right and wrong, belief paradigm that taught us that is was shameful and bad to be wrong, to make mistakes, to be imperfect - to be human. 

We formed our core relationship with our self and with life in early childhood based on the messages we recieved, the emotional trauma we suffered, and the role modelling of the adults around us. As we grew up, we built our relationship with self, other people, and life on the foundation we formed in this early childhood.

When we were five, we were already reacting to life out of the emotional trauma of earlier childhood experience. We adapted defences to try to protect ourselves and to get our survival needs met. The defences adapted at five due to the trauma suffered at earlier ages led to further trauma when we were seven that then caused us to adjust our defences, that led to deep dissociations in our teenage years

Toxic dissociation is the belief that there is something inherently wrong with who we are, with our being. Guilt is "I made a mistake, I did something wrong." The Toxic dissociation is: "I am a mistake. There is something wrong with me."
It is important to start awakening to the Truth that there is nothing inherently wrong with our child within - it is our relationship with our child within and with our adult life that is dysfunctional. And that relationship was formed in our early childhood.

The way that one begins child within consciousness is simply to become aware of our hidden side.

To become aware that the governing principle in life is cause and effect.

To become aware that our relationship with our self is dysfunctional.

To change our awareness that we have the power to understand and change our relationship with our child within.

To understand that we were programmed with false beliefs about the purpose and nature of life in early childhood - and that we can change that programming.

To allow our child within to acknowledge that we have emotional wounds from childhood that it is possible to get in touch with our child within and to understand to re-connect from the dictating dysfunctional adult that we have become the frozen emotional life we are living  today.

That is the purpose of child within solution - to stop letting our experiences of the past dictate how we respond to life today. It cannot be done without re-connecting to our childhood hidden within.

We need to become to raise our consciousness. To re-map a new level of consciousness for ourselves that allows us to observe ourselves from the viewpoint of our child within.

It is vitally important to start observing ourselves - our reactions, our feelings, our thoughts - from a child within place that is not shaming.

We all have developed an inner judgemental critic, a critical parent voice, that beats us up with shame, judgement, and fear. The critical parent voice developed to try to control our emotions and our behaviours because we got the message there was something wrong with us and that our survival would be threatened if we did, said, or felt the "wrong" things.

It is vital to start learning how to connect and free ourselves not give power to that critical shaming voice. We need to start observing ourselves with compassion. This is almost impossible at the beginning of our  healing process - having compassion for our self, being Loving to our self, is the hardest thing for us to do.Making gentle contact with our child hidden within paramount

So, we need to start to re-connect to our child within ourselves from a neutral perspective of our childhood. Become a child observer, a perfect child within -  of our own inner process as it were.

We need to start observing our childhood and asking ourselves where that reaction / thought / feeling is coming from. Why am I feeling this way? What does this remind me of from my past? How old do I feel right now? How old did I act when that happened?

One of the amazing things about this process, is that as one starts to become more aware of our own perfect child within, we also start to become more aware of others. We start seeing when the people in our lives are reacting like a little kid, or adolescent, or teenager, or whatever. The more we become aware of their reactions, the easier it becomes to stop taking their behaviour personally - which then makes it easier to detach from our own adult constructed reactions and observe ourselves from our child within viewpoint.

It is an amazing, miraculous process, that can help us to change our relationship with our self, with other people, and with life. Becoming more aware, becoming conscious of a new way of looking at ourselves and life is the beginning of a process of learning to forgive and understand our child within that has become trapped within ourselves.

 Understanding the mystery of the conscious perfect child within of why we have lived our lives as we have, we can start to free ourselves from our past. By understanding the miracle of child within intact consciousness, we can learn how to really be liberated instead of just surviving and enduring.

Kindfulness Contemplations a contemplative study into the child within journey towards self

Kindfulness Contemplation understanding the roots of the child within and the opening of the roots of parental influence. How do we know that when we are is actually conscious and does it matter? There is no question that the baby is awake. Its eyes are wide open, it wriggles and grimaces, and, most important, it cries. But all that is not the same as being conscious, of experiencing pain, seeing red or smelling Mom's milk.

We recognise that we have no awareness of our own state, emotions and motivations. Even as older children we can speak have very limited insight into our own actions. We who have raised a boy is familiar with the blank look on our teenager’s face when we ask him why he did something particularly rash. A shrug and “I dunno—it seemed like a good idea at the time” is the most we’ll hear.

Although a newborn lacks self-awareness, the baby processes complex visual stimuli and attends to sounds and sights in its world, preferentially looking at faces. The infant’s visual acuity permits it to see only blobs, but the basic cortical circuitry necessary to support simple visual and other conscious percepts is in place. And linguistic capacities in us are shaped by the environment we grow up in. Exposure to maternal speech sounds in the muffled confines of the womb enables the foetus to pick up statistical regularities so that the newborn can distinguish its mother’s voice and even her language from others. A more complex behaviour is imitation: if Dad sticks out his tongue and waggles it, the infant mimics his gesture by combining visual information with proprioceptive feedback from its own movements. It is therefore likely that the baby has some basic level of inflective, present-oriented consciousness.

The Road to our Awareness
But when does the magical journey of consciousness begin? Consciousness requires a sophisticated network of highly interconnected components, nerve cells. Its physical substrate, the cortical complex that provides consciousness with its highly elaborate content, begins to be in place between the 24th and 28th week of gestation. Roughly two months later synchrony of the electroencephalographic (EEG) rhythm across both cortical hemispheres signals the onset of global neuronal integration. Thus, many of the circuit elements necessary for consciousness are in place by the third trimester. By this time, pre-term infants can survive outside the womb under proper medical care. And as it is so much easier to observe and interact with a pre-term baby than with a foetus of the same gestational age in the womb, the foetus is often considered to be like a pre-term baby, like an unborn newborn. But this notion disregards the unique uterine environment: suspended in a warm and dark cave, connected to the placenta that pumps blood, nutrients and hormones into its growing body and brain, the foetus is asleep.

Invasive experiments in rat and lamb pups and observational studies using ultrasound and electrical recordings in humans show that the third-trimester foetus is almost always in one of two sleep states. Called active and quiet sleep, these states can be distinguished using electroencephalography. Their different EEG signatures go hand in hand with distinct behaviours: breathing, swallowing, licking, and moving the eyes but no large-scale body movements in active sleep; no breathing, no eye movements and tonic muscle activity in quiet sleep. These stages correspond to rapid-eye-movement (REM) and slow-wave sleep common to all mammals. In late gestation the foetus is in one of these two sleep states 95 percent of the time, separated by brief transitions.

What is fascinating is the discovery that the foetus is actively sedated by the low oxygen pressure (equivalent to that at the top of Mount Everest), the warm and cushioned uterine environment and a range of inhibitory and sleep-inducing substances produced by the placenta and the foetus itself: adenosine; two steroidal anaesthetics, allopregnanolone and pregnanolone; one potent hormone, prostaglandin D2; and others. The role of the placenta in maintaining sedation is revealed when the umbilical cord is closed off while keeping the foetus adequately supplied with oxygen. The lamb embryo now moves and breathes continuously. From all this evidence, neonatologists conclude that the foetus is asleep while its brain matures.

Dreamless Sleep?
One complication ensues. When people awaken during REM sleep, they often report vivid dreams with extensive narratives. Although consciousness during dreams is not the same as during wakefulness—most noticeably insight and self-reflection are absent—dreams are consciously experienced and felt. So does the foetus dream when in REM sleep? This is
not known. But what would it dream of?

After birth, dream content is informed by recent and more remote memories. Longitudinal studies of dreaming in children suggest that dreaming is a gradual cognitive development that is tightly linked to the capacity to imagine things visually and to visuospatial skills. Thus, preschoolers’ dreams are often static and plain, with no characters that move or act, hardly any feelings and no memories. What would dreaming be like for an organism that spends its time suspended in a sort of isolation tank, with no memories, and no way to imagine anything at all? I wager that the foetus experiences nothing in utero; that it feels the way we do when we are in a deep, dreamless sleep.

The dramatic events attending delivery by natural (vaginal) means cause the brain to abruptly wake up, however. The foetus is forced from its paradisal existence in the protected, aqueous and warm womb into a hostile, aerial and cold world that assaults its senses with utterly foreign sounds, smells and sights, a highly stressful event.

 A massive surge of nor-epinephrine—more powerful than during any skydive or exposed climb the foetus may undertake in its adult life—as well as the release from anaesthesia and sedation that occurs when the foetus disconnects from the maternal placenta, arouses the baby so that it can deal with its new circumstances. It draws its first breath, wakes up and begins to experience life.

Our conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour. That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain.