Our conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain.
Our conscious mind — believe it or not — is not in charge of our day-to-day behaviour.That claim may seem counter intuitive and contrary to our experience, but it has been demonstrated in controlled experiments time and again. By the time our conscious mind is aware of any particular decision or action, it has already been made or enacted by some other part of our brain.
In recovery we often become sheriffs dealing with outlaws in the dusty Wild West: “There’s only room for one of us in this town…” To make the analogy fit, the outlaw (i.e. the child within) must lack weapons, strength, or skill. Whenever he tangles with the sheriff (i.e. the fellowships) he always loses and gets booted out of town (i.e. the needs of the dysfunctioning majority win, and our needs get neglected).
What then happens is when we the outlaw, if we don’t die some destructive death, leaves town (i.e. buries our needs in our unconscious) and goes to find another weaker fellowship in which we declare ourself sheriff (i.e. starts our own group, often with exploitable people of our own).
Thus the system perpetuates itself…unless its members find some way to heal.
We need stagers who don’t lie to us – or to themselves. We need stagers who can be straight with us. We need stagers who can be straight with each other, and have no hidden agendas. We need stagers who don’t use us as a pawn in their relationship games with others, and most especially each other. We need stagers who can let us be who we are – and not brag about the ten stages. We need stagers who do not see us as extensions of themselves, and thus do not say “thank you” when someone compliments their recovery. We need stagers who instead say, “yes, you’re right,” and don’t secretly feel self-gratified by our wondrous self.
We need stagers who do not live in fear of their own deaths. We need stagers who live in the moment, because they have integrated the truths of their past.
We need stagers who are evolved in spirit and healthy in body, and who will not abandon us to death before we am ready to stand on our own as an autonomous recovered adult.
If we are to open full discourse with our healed self. We need to devote our lives to the betterment of ourselves in mind, body, and spirit. We need to enter the deepest and darkest depths of ourselves and resolved the most painful traumas of our own past. We need to no longer live awash in our wounds foisted on us by our own upbringing. We need to become who have become fully recovered and no longer store hidden parts of our ravaged selves in our unconscious.
We use projection,as our most basic defence mechanism underlying our dissociation and acting out, it becomes so easy and comfortable when one has offspring. They’re like magnets for parental projection of denied material, for one’s own unresolved childhood traumas, and are a time-tested vaccination against healing power of the ten stages.
Reject our upbringing, reject the lies that we are raised on, and find the honest truth within our child within. This threatens others way of life, and creates a new deep recovery mould. The Ten Stages creates a new recovery method of full health and well being.
Our intuition does not merely tell us verbally about our Truth. intuition communicates Truth directly and energetically through wisdom and gracious presence into the inner ear or the very bloodstream of our Being. This becomes the power of a true Stager.
Not only do we seek resolution of our perceived problems, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don't deserve resolution; we deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright from our child within, which is the restoration of our intuitive voice, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity.
That means - daily progress. It doesn't have to be huge. It doesn't have to be grand. Just simple daily stagers progress.
We love this - because We believe in simple small acts of progress AND WE now understand our huge lofty goals. AND - I know we say this A LOT, but it still needs to be said... the goal and the dream if you want your recovery to support it, must be OF SERVICE and exhibit Loving-Kindness and compassion.
This is the key. But, you see - it's very hard to solve "world peace" and much more manageable to think a peaceful thought. And guess what... world peace begins in our minds.
It's the accumulation of many small stages that create movements, epic outcomes and grand ideas to come into manifestation.
Our life is a mechanical life. It's not human, it's programmed, conditioned. We might as well be a stone, a block of wood. We can go to the movies, drive around in a car, we can go for a cruise. Do we think we are much better off than we are? We have become are just as dead as we can be. Just as much a machine as we are -- a machine nevertheless. That's sad. It's sad to think that we go through life like this. We go through life with fixed ideas; we never change. We're just not aware of what's going on. We might as well be a block of wood, or a rock, a talking, walking, thinking machine. That's not human. We are puppets, jerked around by all kinds of things. Press our button and we get a reaction. You can almost predict how this person is going to react. don't listen to those who say to us, "Forget ourself! Go out in love to others." Don't listen to them! They're all wrong. The worst thing we can do is forget ourself when we go out to others in the so called helping attitude.
We ask where compassion comes in, where guilt comes in all this. We'll know when we're awake to our Child Within. If we're feeling guilty right now, how on earth can we explain it to you? How would we know what compassion is? You know, sometimes people want to imitate, but when a monkey plays a saxophone, that doesn't make him a musician. We can't imitate the Child Within by imitating his external behaviour. We've got to become our Child Within. Then we'll know exactly what to do in a particular situation, given our temperament, our character, and the character and temperament of the person we're dealing with. No one has to tell us. But to do that, we must return to our Child Within was. An external imitation will get us nowhere. If you think that compassion implies softness, there's no way I can describe compassion to you, absolutely no way, because compassion can be very hard. Compassion can be very rude, compassion can jolt you, compassion can roll up its sleeves and operate on you. Compassion is all kinds of things. Compassion can be very soft, but there's no way of knowing that. It's only when you become love -- in other words, when you have dropped your illusions and attachments -- that you will "know."
Imagine that you are in a situation or with a person that you find unpleasant and that you would ordinarily avoid. Now observe how your computer instinctively becomes active insisting that you avoid this situation or try to change it....Now keep looking at the unpleasant situation or person until your realise that it isn't they that are causing the the negative emotions....They are doing their thing....It is your computer thanks to your programming that insists on your reacting with negative emotions....Observe all of this from the outside so to speak and see the marvellous change that comes about in you. For it will have become evident to you that real oppression comes, not from people who fight you in court or from authority that subjects you to slave labor , but from your computer whose programming destroys your peace of mind the moment outside circumstances fail to conform to its demands.
