“THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME BETTER, STRONGER and showing me HOW POWERFUL I TRULY AM”?

So how are you showing up to Study? Are you showing up entitled because it’s “so hard”? Or are you looking the friction, the resistance and the hard times dead in the face with GRATITUDE and PRAISE shouting OUT LOUD,

“THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME BETTER, STRONGER and showing me HOW POWERFUL I TRULY AM”?

Hear me, how you MEET and DEAL and GIVE MEANING to resistance of your child within is how successful you will be in your Recovery life. If you resent it, or are entitled and bratty and think it shouldn’t be this way – enjoy being an observer of life. BUT – if you meet RESISTANCE with the KNOWING and the CERTAINTY that YOU and your child within got this, and instead of saying “WHY ME?” you say “TRY ME!” – you can count that eventually you will be welcomed into the realm of those who have the PRIVILEGE to live their recovery.

So, how are you showing up to Study today?

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You know what? Sometimes things aren’t happening in our lives because we just keep them out.

You know what? Sometimes things aren’t happening in our lives because we just keep them out. We do. With our fear. With our doubt. With our terrified child within who would rather die than open up and be hurt again.

Well I’m sorry - pain is a part of life at the stages. And those of us at the stages have come to realise that those of us who can tolerate, understand and eventually come to terms with pain are the ones who rise into recovery. People want a quick fix. Life is simple, but life is not easy. It’s hard to gain recovery. Since when was life supposed to be easy? Who told us this and why did we believe it?

Just because you are recovered, doesn’t mean you get it easy. It’s BECAUSE you are recovered that you get even MORE awareness thrown on you.

Intuition is not the result of diet, rituals, or wind chimes. It's the natural consequence of having self-esteem, the greatest power you can have.

"The ability to know that your perceptions are accurate has to happen without others' validation. Intuition is not the result of diet, rituals, or wind chimes. It's the natural consequence of having self-esteem, the greatest power you can have. With self-esteem, your life can broaden into an adventure because you can know in your gut that you can handle the unknown. And you can handle helping others without fear, which is true liberation."






- Caroline Myss, best-selling author and inspirational speaker.
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As we awaken from the child within’s nightmare of despair we begin enlightened living.

As we awaken from the child within’s nightmare of despair we begin enlightened living.  As we heal the crippling traumas of the past we become free to develop our gifts—without fear of inner censorship.  Living and working authentically, we discover life’s meaning and make an original contribution to the world through our daily existence and labor.  We help others see the way, and we help life evolve further into consciousness.  This is our true work studying the ten stages.

We need to come out of our addictive sleep

We need to come out of our addictive sleep and change our orientation:  our orientation to life itself.

We the addicted, in our own particular way, have been psychically brutalised by the rejection of family and society.

We the addicted, in our own particular way, have been psychically brutalised by the rejection of family and society.  This is not easily overcome, and is much more easily internalised.  We can’t underestimate this trauma and its profound effect.  This explains why we act out in so many self-destructive ways.  To know the pain of the past and integrate its torture is terrible work.  Yet, not to get beyond our pain and instead simply to act out our traumas or sink into conformity, depression, our addictions, and conventional living destroys our gift as outsiders and truth seekers.  And we deceive ourselves when we call criticism of our bad behaviour junkie,addict,drunk.

WE have come to study humanity at the stages

  

WE have come to study humanity at the stages, and many of its expressions and attributes, through the lenses of these ten study variations or stages, and we explore them in many of our studies.

We are wounded children, seeking to exploit others and the world in order to make up for the deficits of our childhood.

We are ruled by trauma—not truth. We are the norm. We remain unconscious of the legacy of poison that we carry from our families and ancestors. We are destructive toward ourselves, others, and our home. In essence, We are wounded children, seeking to exploit others and the world in order to make up for the deficits of our childhood. We are rapacious and violent—which are expressions of our childhood neglect.

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We have to lose ourself in order to find ourself in the stages.

We have to lose ourself in order to find ourself in the stages. We gently remove the barriers finding a key that unlocks our hidden room in which our child resides. It is scary doing this. You may have to go against the wishes of our parents, loved ones or even religion to follow our recovery at the stages.

But our recovery is re-awakening our child within its calling us. And once we realise it, we will be returning home - within ourself. Instead of believing what we believe because someone told us to, We will believe what we believe because we have our child withins life experience on which to base our beliefs.

This is the path of self-realisation - to believe what we believe because we have re-contacted to our child within, and to find out what it feels like to truly belong to ourself .

When you belong to ourself, we are no longer traumatised by parents or loved ones who don't understand us. We are free to leave them as they are, because we don't need them to see us, because we finally see our child within. We're are free to recover unconditionally and not let their judgments or abuse dictate our path.



Ask the Child Within to show us how we can re-connect to our mind and our intuitive voice. The answers will reveal themselves within this new communication. .

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Our thought that "something is wrong with me" can be one of the biggest roadblocks to our recovery .

Our thought that "something is wrong with me" can be one of the biggest roadblocks to our recovery .

We are not talking about the kind of "something is wrong with me" in the being sick and needing to go to the doctor kind of way; in this case, there is an imbalance in your system and it must be corrected.

We are talking about in the "I need to be fixed to be recovered and happy" kind of way.

We believe that the thought "We need to be fixed" is one of the only things we need corrected in order to be recovered.

If it were true that you did not need to be fixed- that as you are, you are enough, that you have everything you need, right now, then everything in our life will change.

The chase would stop. The need to "fix" ourself would stop. The need for outward approval would cease.

Instead of needing to be fixed, from a place of wholeness, you would simply see that your only real need is for who we really are to be revealed.

If you could switch this one thought, this one perception, from the need to "be fixed" to the desire to "be revealed," it would make living your life at your Highest Potential much more achievable.

Instead of thinking you need to "fix" the part of yourself that is addicted, take the stance that the healthy and vibrant part of your true nature needs to be revealed.

Instead of thinking that you aren't enough or aren't lovable, see that all you have to do is reveal your enough-ness and loveable nature by trusting The Child Within who is born perfect and knowing that you can handle whatever it throws your way. Instead of playing the broken victim, step into being a powerful co-creator of your life with your perfect partner your child within you.. 

Who you really are is a Child Within living in human form. The energy of your child has called forth and asked for a body to inhabit to experience life in human form. That deeper part of you that is not flesh and bone, who you are on a Soul level, is perfect, HUGE and a child within.

You don't need to be fixed all you need is to learn to be revealed by your child in your life.

When this revelation happens, all types of lack and disease will vanish from your life and the miracle of your child really are will be revealed.

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For true recovery ask yourself these four questions:

For true recovery ask yourself these four questions: 

Why? 

Why not? 

Why not me? 

Why not now?

Stay connected to who you really are!

Stay connected to who you really are!

What's that mean?

It means to remember that at your child within looking out. You have come here not to be needy and take, but to be full and give away to the world from that place of fullness.

When you remember who you are, the desire to chase, to grasp and to yearn stops. You remember that you are a child within and were created to fulfil a very special purpose.

You remember that one of the great promises of recovery is that you will be provided for as you walk along the path of your child within. The fearful mind calms and the mind full of Faith emerges.

You remember that you are enough as you are and that nothing can prove otherwise, other than your own admission that you are less than who you really are.

When you remember who you really are, you surround yourself with loving people. You bask in your recovery and no longer accept or tolerate abuse and hate.

You pull back from judging others and instead keep your eyes on your child within purifying your own desires and intentions.

You line up your thoughts with your child's and then the actions and the fruits of  recovery naturally follow. You let go of the need to control and let your intuitive voice fill in the gaps, because our child within is super intelligent and knows what you need even more than you do.

When you remember who you really are, you recover yourself and your intuitive voice enough to take care of your body with healthy foods, exercise, yoga and breath. You recover your mind enough to not let it run the show, and instead make time for meditation to calm it down so your Child Within shines through.

When you remember who you are, you embrace challenge and catastrophe with acceptance rather than disdain. You know that with the Light comes the Dark and that both are needed in the dance of Life.

When you remember who you are, you are attractive to those who believe what you believe. You don't see rejection as bad, but rather as a sorting device keeping unhealthy matches away from you. You naturally and effortlessly find Love because you already embody It.

When you remember who you are, life ceases to become difficult and transforms into an adventure you can't wait to take.

When you remember who you are, you live your life following your Heart so that when you get to the end, you say: "What a ride!" instead of wondering, "What if I had...?"

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek. Fear of the unknown is our greatest fear. Many of us would enter a tiger's lair before we would enter a dark cave. While caution is a useful instinct, we lose many opportunities and much of the adventure of life if we fail to support the curious explorer within us."

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The joy of living a Self -Approved life is revealed when we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves

Our whole lives we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for approval and to fit in. This happens first as a child – when we adapt to meet our parents' needs so that we can get others approval.


Then, as we get older, it could be with a group of friends, or adapting to how we think our romantic partner thinks we should be – or the opposite, we rebel against how anyone thinks we should be and we stand out by not fitting in.


No matter how we slice it, adapting ourselves to fitting in or being a rebel and standing out – all of these behaviours stem from our thoughts about what other people think. And living our lives from the perspective of what other people think creates massive pain in our lives. Because when we act based on what other people think, we are acting from the place of a deficit, that is, "I'm not enough, so I am going to change myself to be enough."


This core thought has caused A LOT of pain in our life.


The journey is that through feeling all of this pain, we come back to ourselves. And we stop identifying with what other people think we should be, or we stop rebelling against other people – and instead tune in and listen to who we really are we explore our child hidden within.


Each and every one of us, and that includes YOU, is a unique soul. We each have a unique gift. We are all great at something.


And life comes into balance and our fullest expression begins to be realised when we align with our true nature rather than being a part of the herd or rebelling against the herd.

The journey is to the child within. When we listen to and act from that place – we are trendsetters – we are unique – we are special – and ain't no one else like us!

And what's cool is that when we start to belong to ourselves and express ourselves, we put out a different frequency and, as a result, we start attracting and meeting people who are on that new wavelength. And what's even cooler is that in doing so, we no longer need to chase people. When we belong to ourselves, we find who else we belong to.

The joy of living a Self -Approved life is revealed when we begin to allow ourselves to be ourselves – we accept ourselves as we are – we accept ourselves as perfectly imperfect and the inner conflict begins to die down. And our true nature emerges and The Child Within supports us in miraculous ways.




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